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Is this guy I am dating online just stringing me along?

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Question - (10 July 2011) 2 Answers - (Newest, 10 July 2011)
A female Canada age 30-35, anonymous writes:

So.

I've been seeing this guy online for about... five months now. We get along great, and find each other very attractive. He's quite a bit older than I am, and while he's single, he has children (never married).

He does his work early to talk to me, and often leaves me msgs just to say hello. Sounds great, right?

Problem is... he's been acting a bit weird of late.

I have a roommate (L), and he refuses to talk to me if L is home. We use our webcams to chat, and even if I say that I can still chat but not use my cam, he says "Oh, we'll try another day."

He sings in a band (that's relatively popular) in his area, and as such has groupies. There's one blonde, buxom woman who flirts near constantly with him - he says he doesn't care for her and likes me, but I'm finding it hard to trust him, especially with his current behaviour.

Lately he's taken to ignoring me during chats - I asked him a question and he disappeared and went over to Facebook for about two hours (I know this because I was online there as well, and he chose to speak to different people - including the blonde). I asked him about it later, and he said "Oh, I had a bad conversation, that's all." Somehow I don't believe him.

I tried talking to him today, and he just signed out without saying anything to me.

He's also skipped out on at least two Skype dates, and then acted like nothing had happened. I get that real life gets in the way, but I would at least like an apology. I knew I would be missing out on a date with him, and so sent him a msg apologizing.

I'm supposed to be going to visit him in the fall/winter, and I'm not too sure about what to think anymore.

Is it worth it or am I just being strung along?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2011):

I would stop communicating now as he's showing signs of being unreliable and untrustworthy.

He's told you he's being chased by some blonde and that he has groupies

He doesn't want to chat when your roomates there - just skype when your alone - have to ask why?

Also have you met in person ? Do you know for sure he's not married?

Don't put all your eggs in this basket

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A female reader, hannah76 United Kingdom +, writes (10 July 2011):

hannah76 agony auntHello,

He seems to be treating you with less and less respect. Signing off and ignoring you and not chatting if the roommate is there. I believe you should pull this now and just don't bother. We need someone to care and to enjoy talking and show enthusiasm with us.

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