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writes:I've been in a long distance relationship with my partner of 14 months for 6 months now as she had to move back home due to being unable to pay rent. However, we do get to see each other weekly or fortnghtly, depending on situations. We're also under quite a bit of stress recently also.I love knowing that she's on her way to me each time, but when we've been apart for some time I find myself feeling slightly distanced in a way which I feel guilty about. Yet I still know she's the person I want to spend my life with.When she comes over again, however, I feel all the love and feelings I have for her come flooding back. I also wrote a list of all the reasons I love her and reading it back I felt tingly inside.I'd like to know, is this normal for a LDR and is there a way it can be resolved?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2014): If you're so sure you want to spend your life together then live together/get married to cut the costs and pool resources. I've done long distance for two years, seeing each other every 3-4 months.It sucked but we always felt close.You need to communicate often. We did daily. Video calling, texting, writing letters.It worked great.But people are different, if you can't do long distance, can't live together, then I don't see what else you can do other than end it.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (14 February 2014):
 the only way to resolve it is to NOT be LDR...
you were not LDR and now you seem to be short distance LDR since you can see each other weekly or biweekly.... that's a very workable LDR.
we were about 100 miles (2 hour drive) apart for the first year of our relationship and we could not bear it for another year (our original plan) so he gave up his job and his apartment and moved to be with me full time.
IF you guys have minimal money, it impacts on a relationship since you can't see each other.
what's the plan to end the distance and when?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2014): Her travel has been such a financial burden for her that she couldn't pay her rent. The stress is, it's been almost two years; and it hasn't really gotten anywhere.
Date locally.
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