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*ristina kumar
writes:Hi guys.. So to keep it simple, my boyfriend of just over 2 years had this friend before we met.. His friend was a girl- he told me that they kissed once but it didn't feel right apparently so nothing else happened. He hasn't spoken to her since we gotTogether because she moved away and they lost contact. When I was at work the other day and when I cameHome he told me that he bumped into her in a supermarket. She was with her mum who my boyfriend was also very close to... Anyway the girl's mum has invited my boyfriend round for a catch up next Wednesday and he's going over. I'm really upset by this and can't stop thinking about it. I have told my boyfriend how I feel but he keeps saying I'm still going no matter what you say or feel. Do I have a right to be angry and upset? Or am I taking this too far and thinking too much into it? He told me earlier that he's gonna be selfish about it coz they were in his life before me.. Is this also fair? Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2015): I would be upset too.I would view it as opening up a door that has been closed and should remain closed.The fact he is going tells me he is selfish and thoughtless.A more caring boyfriend knowing how you feel would have VOLUNTEERED not to go. Simply because it would upset his girlfriend and no guy ever wants to do that.You will have to decide if this is a deal breaker. Or you can ask to go along as you are his girlfriend and have every right to go with him.But I would not like it and would probably do something to get him back.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (26 December 2015):
 I think you are a bit over-dramatic about this. He is going to VISIT her and HER mom. NOT just her.
It's a social visit. And yes, I DO think he should be able to go visit her and her mom without you going overboard thinking he is going to cheat or whatnot.
HOWEVER his attitude lacks some common decency.
It's not your job as a GF to "control" who his friends are.
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