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writes:Hope someone can help me.I've been with a guy for nearly 2 years now. He has always had a kind of 'firey' nature and tends to sulk a lot.I suffer from depression and when I am happy he gives me loads of attention and love. However wen I am down he seems to distance himself from me and admits that when I am happy he feels like giving me everything he's got, but when I'm down and grumpy he can't bring himself to show affection/love.I haven't been the perfect girlfriend either and have sometimes been a bit of a bitch.Is he worth staying with? Should I always have to be happy and bouncy for him to want to give me love and affection? Reply to this Question
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reader, ball_boa  +, writes (2 May 2011):
he sound like a good guy but maybe not the right guy 4 u. its not abuse its just the fact that he hates seeing u sad. it fustrates him that he cant bring u out of it thats y he gets grumpy and upset. if u can live with him avoiding u when ur depresed then keep him around good guys are heard to come by but if u cant then i would recomend trying to fined a man who can be there for u during those trying times
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (2 May 2011):
 Maybe he just isn't used to consoling people, you did say he sulks a lot, perhaps he doubts his ability to comfort you because of his own inner demons. Some people are just like that. What you really have to ask is whether or not he is actually good for you.
What good is he when you need someone the most. Life tends to force you into misery at some point and more often than not, you will need someone there beside you, a shoulder to cry on, someone to be your warmth when the world seems a cold place or even just someone to vent to because everyone needs that sometimes. Everyone loves happiness but where will he be if you break down? Maybe you just aren't right for each other or maybe he just needs a little help. Do you know why he sulks?
I hope that helps.
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