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writes:I need some helpful advice here, because I'm close to lose my wife, after long marriage. I'm impotent, and I had several medical investigation, because I thought it must have a medical cause, as I didn't think, it was psychological issue. But they never found anything wrong with my health. I also have night erections. So, I can't tell her , this is not her, as I have no medical diagnosis, what she would accept. I also have no desire to have sex, and my impotence is chronic, several years ago.So she basically thinks, I don't love her anymore, and she can't understand me. I do love her, and I really don't know what is wrong with me. Is this common to have chronic impotence without medical cause?
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reader, jesussturgis +, writes (8 January 2013):
Have you checked your testosterone levels or had a PSA test? It's important to be comprehensive in all the tests. If you have problems urinating, Super Beta Prostate is a good natural supplement to try out for a healthier prostate. I hope you find a solution soon and try and show your wife you love only her in other ways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2012): yes she has accepted the condition but not happy about it. is your sexual desire gone towards your wife only? b/c if that is the case then clearly it is psychological. I hope I have been helpful and hope you will be ok.Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2012): Thanks again, (0P)
Well, I do have my night erections all the time, but my sexual desire is gone . So it is a chance, that I have more signs showing to something psychological ,than physical.
How is your wife now? Is she able to accept your condition?
I guess, she needs to be kind about it, that it is not your fault. When there is a medical cause, there is more chance to find understanding. Is this true?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2012): yes I did have night erections but not very often also I suffered from premature ejaculations and yes I had sexual desires and still have but no erection.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2012): Dear anon! ( OP)
Thanks for your answer.
Could you please tell me, in that time, when they thought it was psychological, did you still have night erections? As they say, if you have night erection, you can't have medical problems, only psychological. Also how was your sexual desire, did you have desire, you just couldn't get an erection? Because my desire is an other issue here, It is completely gone. It is very important help for me to share, as feel alone with this problem.
Thanks very much for sharing,.
OP
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2012): I suffered the same symptom when I was around your age group. Also the doctors didn't find any medical reasons at the time and thought it was psychological.I had been married at that time for nearly 25 years and so our love life slowly dwindled till it became nonexistant. Then after several years it became evident that I was suffering from enlarged prostate and weak heart as these symptoms became more pronounced and easy to discover by doctors.
My advice now it is time to take care and change your life style and diet so that you safeguard your heart and arteries b/c that is the main reason for not pumping more blood to that part of the body. start exercising, lose wieght if you have extra pounds and start taking viagra to help get your erections back atleast till you cross the psyclogical barrier if there is one.Whatever you do , don't ignore the symptoms hoping that the erections will come back one day because they don't if left untreated. there is nothing worse that a sexless life for a man in my opinion. Don't ignore your condition otherwise you will regret it when it is too late.Take care. Good luck.
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reader, PeanutButter +, writes (20 January 2012):
 If there has been extensive testing and no medical cause has been found, it doesn't mean that one doesn't exist. Having said that, the more often impotence occurs, the more it becomes a psychological issue as you think its going to happen, you get stressed, it happens, like a self fulfilling prophecy.
Sometimes it is more common to be impotent with people you care a lot about - the pressure to perform well for those you love can sometimes be the reason you can't, and so the cycle continues.
Have you told your wife about it at all? I would suggest being very honest with her about it or else she is going to start to thing she is doing something wrong or that you aren't interested anymore.
I think you may need counseling or some therapy at the least as there is clearly a problem here somewhere - it has just not been discovered yet.
I wish you all the luck in the world - hang in there!
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