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writes:I have been with my partner for almost 18 years - it's been pretty rocky at patches but we've always pulled through. My family and my boyfriend have never got on. My mother died a year ago and there have been all sorts of complications with the will - my stepfather treating me very badly and my brother, whilst not taking his side, also not entirely being supportive. I have made a decision re the will that my boyfriend does not agree with and he is now saying that I have been totally unsupportive towards him over the years, always putting my family before him - which to an extent may be true since I was always close to my familiy, but they did not treat him well. I don't know how to handle this - I know that I have been self centred over the years, but he is so upset and stressed about it that I think we may be finally at breaking point. I have already made an agreement in principal re the will and don't think it is right to break my word, just because my BF disagrees, however is this me disregarding him again? Reply to this Question
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (11 February 2008):
 Your boyfriend of 18 years probably feels like he has some say in your decision making. Even after 18 years, he is still only a boyfriend, and as such, has no say in any decisions you make regarding your mother's will. If he doesn't like it, too bad.
That's the problem with long term commitments that aren't legal commitments. When a legal issue arises, you're on your own. For good or for bad.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (11 February 2008):
 When you totally disagree with a person , it means that you do not accept his views and you over ride his objections.
This can be taken as disregarding him.
If you partially agreed to some of his conditions, then you cannot be said to disregard him.
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