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writes:I have been with my girlfriend for a couple of months now. Sometimes if we go out for a meal she will comment on a woman and say she looks pretty and she tells me to have a look. I really dont like doing that while I am with her because I dont want to give the wrong impression to my girlfriend.I usually just glance up and say I dont think she is that pretty or she is not my type which about 95% is true.I really dont think my girlfriend is bi-sexual but I do get the feeling she is testing me to see if I only have eyes for her or other women too.What is your opinion? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi thanks for all your answers. I never thought of insecurity.
She did tell me about how she finally ended a 7 year bad relationship with an alcholic over 5 years ago now and since then she told me all of her other dates didnt work out for various reasons.
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (21 September 2010):
 It could be that she is testing you, to see how into her you are, or to see if you look at other women a lot. Or perhaps she wants to give you the impression that she is easy going and not the jealous type. She could just be open, comfortable with her own attractiveness and possibly bisexual.
Either way, be honest. If you think the girl's pretty, she's giving you permission to say so, if she doesn't like what you say, that's her fault. Just give a simple yes or no. A good thing to say would be yesshe's an attractive woman, but I think you're much more beautiful. Maybe a little cheesy but this brings the attention back to her.
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (21 September 2010):
 It could go either way. She could be self conscious and this is her way of trying to get you to reinforce her self consciousness by agreeing that other women are prettier than her. Or, she may be the exact opposite and she's completely confident in her appearance and is really just making an observation. As far as being a way to show that she's bi-sexual? I doubt it. I think if she was bi-sexual she would let you know about it. I don't think she would "beat around the bush".
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reader, tblondie1826 +, writes (21 September 2010):
I believe your girlfriend is a bit insecure. I'm insecure as well so I can see where she is coming from. Maybe remind her more often that she is "the only girl you see" and are interested in. Remind her that you love her and do little things that show her that you do really care. Girls love compliments and hearing I love you, it's in our DNA. I'm not sure if I'm 100% correct, but if I were the girl in this situation that would be my reasoning. Hope this helps:)
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