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writes:I would really appreciate advise from people who know about womanizers/players. I met my ex boyfriend four years ago. When we first met he was very intense and started talking about marriage very quickly. He seemed to fall in love with me much faster than I did but I grew to love and adore him. He was incredibly loving and kind and giving to me. We had an amazing relationship, hardly ever argued and did most everything together. I later learned that before me, he had many girlfriends and often many at the same time....not serious. I believe while we were together he only had me and really was quite settled with me. We did have some problems along the way when I found he had text some flirting/ sexting texts to a married girlfriend of his. He also secretly met up with an ex and hid it from me. I also found photos of him at clubs with girls (all harmless in reality but hidden from me). After three years we had some problems that we sorted through, but I later found out that at that time he created many internet profiles looking for sex. Eventually I ended our relationship six months ago. Since then he has met up with lots of his ex girlfriends and dated a lot of new women all at the same time (lying that they are the only one).He is sleeping around. At first he wanted us to be FWB but I said no. He now says he still loves me and wants us to get back together, that we would be better than ever and he would be open and honest with everything, that he would leave all the other woman behind if I just say the word. I am wondering if this is a tactic of a womanizer just to have yet ANOTHER woman in his string of woman, or is it possible he is serious about me. So far I have said no and he won't stop dating or seeing these women. Does that show he is not serious? Do you think that this shows his character and I shouldn't even bother with a man that would treat any woman like that. Do you think his tendancy to go back to his old ways are too dangerous for me to consider working on a relationship? or have 'womanizers' been known to reform? Is it possible he is just not serious about the other woman, but is truely still in love with me? I would so appreciate your feedback. I am having real trouble moving on from the pain.Thank you
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reader, dougbcoll  +, writes (6 November 2011):
 to me if he wants to be back with you he would not be seeing other women and put you first in his heart. i am afraid he just wants you around for the ride also, or he would dump the other women. his character is showing he is not only doing it to you but all these other women also. you will more than likely have heart ache on down the road with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2011): Tell him you'll take him back but that there's no sex until after the marriage.
If he really wants you he would try his hardest to be with you. Simple fact.
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