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writes: I finally did it! I said I love you to him. I couldn't hold it in any longer. He said that he thinks about saying it to me but can't right now, and asked me if that was okay. I said "yes for now", because I didn't say it for him to say it back. He said he is enjoying our time together and is afraid of jinxing it by verbalizing it. He said he is glad that I said it, but here's the problem. I didn't know how I would feel after saying it until I said it. It hurts that he won't say it now, and it brings questions into my mind that what is he afraid of jinxing. My main concern is that he is afraid that if he says those 3 words it will mean marriage will be talked about. And for me, yes, that is what will follow. Maybe not tomorrow, maybe not next month, but perhaps the word will be brought up in 6 months. He knows I want marriage, and it is true that if he cannot give me that, I don't think I can just stay in his life without moving forward at some point. Maybe for me him not saying it is a sign to me that he doesn't want marriage. Any comments, thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBTW, what does it mean to say you're afraid of jinxing it? How can one jinx a relationship by saying I love you? It seems that you could jinx it if you don't say it. The other person HAS to know that the person who didn't get it back is feeling so rejected.
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