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writes:This guy and I decided to be friend with benefits before uni' but when we got to uni, it was quite different. The guy is in his late 20s and we go to each other's place to sleep over but we simply end up cuddling and kissing. We got into an argument and he came over days later to talk about it and he slept over really wanting to cuddle. A few days later, a guy was grinding on me at a club and he saw and walked away only to come back with a girl and the next day, he tells me he likes a girl and he wants to try it with her.Is he trying to make me jealous?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 October 2017):
 If he is in his late twenties then I would hope that he is well over playing childish games. Could it be possible that he actually does like someone else? At the moment you are only sleeping together as agreed so if you are feeling jealous then the best thing is to end this situation or you are going to get hurt. Don't enter a FWB situation if you are not completely sure you are okay with it.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (22 October 2017):
 OP, he is more or less a decade older than you and has absolutely no intention of committing to you. These are childish games.
If you are jealous, it's not a FWB you want. If he's off with another girl, it's not you he wants.
I think sticking around this guy would do more harm than good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2017): Not necessarily. You're not his girlfriend, and he was at a club. Is he supposed to sit quietly as you have your fun? Could it be he liked the song and just felt like dancing?
You're FWB's, and jealousy isn't in the contract.
If you did feel jealousy; then you've broken the rules.
I agree with Denizen. You're getting distracted and should be focusing on your studies.
Don't get yourself into manipulative-relationships that lets sex set the tone. Males don't tend to attach their feelings to sex as much as females do! However; guys can be territorial over their sex-partners, and not really care for her (or him) emotionally.
"Friends" can be possessive and get jealous; but it's because they feel threatened for your attention, and losing convenient access on demand.
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reader, N91 +, writes (19 October 2017):
 Way more drama than necessary.
FWB is supposed to be no feelings involved, this has gone past that or else he wouldn't of reacted in such a manner.
If he wants to try it with this new girl, let him.
FWB very, very rarely work the way they're intended. Having been in one in the past I wouldn't recommend them to anyone.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (19 October 2017):
 I think he is trying to have the upper hand. He wants to be the one in "charge" of whatever is going on.
Wish him and the new girl well and CUT the contact. You had a fuck-buddy at best (even with the cuddling that is really ALL he saw you as).
YOU settled for an "FWB" or F-buddy thing with him which means HE can decide that he wants to try other "flavors" and so can you. There is NOT a relationship going on and NO expectations for exclusivity. Which means you can do as you please and SO can he.
You are BOTH acting like kids doing "grown-up" things such as sex.
Focus on SCHOOL and your EDUCATION rather than a guy in his LATE 20's who acts like a hormone driven teenager (no offense to all teens).
You are MUCH better off NOT getting into these casual sex/FWB arrangements when you OBVIOUSLY invest emotions and wanting more. Don't lie to yourself. You WANT a BF, not a guy who just wants to "punch your pillow" on occasions or come over for a "cuddle"... So don't SETTLE for LESS!
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reader, Denizen +, writes (19 October 2017):
 Sweetheart you decided to try FWB. Doesn't that include no exclusivity? In my opinion you would be better off moving out and concentrating on your studies. If you happen to fall in love on the way then great but take it one ball at a time. Your current FWB relationship is complicating your life and distracting you. End it.
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