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writes:Is this a one-sided relationship.Hi all. My b/f and I have been together for 6 months now, its a LDR. We are great together and I am so happy and in love with him. There is a 7 year age gap with me bieng 24 years old. Now there is one little snag in this, he works 24 seven. He works night shifts while I work day shift and on top of that he has is own business that still needs to be daelt with, leaving him with little time to sleep and talk. We hardly ever talk on the phone. He's never been the one to pick up te phone and call me from the begining on the other hand I used to call him everyday but recently stopped cause I got tired of always getting his voicemail. Now this has lead to no communication between the two of us. We send each other mail but only once a day and basic well wishes for the day. We have sank into this routine but lately I find myself crying cause I do not get any attention from my own b/f. He has asked me to be patient with him and he did tell me before we started that it would be hard because of his schedual. We have only spend 2 weekends together ib a space of 6 months. Now my question is how do I deal with this, it is so hard for me and I do not even know how to tell him this. I really love him and recive the love from him but are there ways you guys can advise me. By the way I do keep myself busy all the time but sometimes you cant help but want to be held in someones arms or at least get any kind of attention from him. Thank you in advance. Sorry for the loooooong mail Reply to this Question
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reader, Little Serin  +, writes (21 August 2010):
Hi. I have just found out that my LDR was a complete sham. He was leading a double life. I had all of the no answering phones, going away with his mates so couldn't come see me, etc. All of it was lies as, in fact, he was with this 'wife'. Just go real careful. Go with your gut feeling. Women's intuition is usually right. I've just started down my long tunnel but no there is light somewhere at the end of it.
Good luck and you have to do what makes you happy.
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reader, zebralove  +, writes (20 August 2010):
 Since he tolled you at the verry beginning that it would be a hard relationship because of his work. You kind of accepted this on your own. If it was me I wouldnt of gone out with this guy because I need someone who will be there for me. If you need more attention this might not be the best relationship for you.
Talk to him tho, see if you guys can figure something out.
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reader, Jay25  +, writes (20 August 2010):
 Hi
From personal experience I totally understand how hard it is to not recieve calls,texts and emails from your boyfriend, it is terribly frustrating. After weeks of this I finally sat down with my boyfriend and expained that I needed this type of communication during the day as it lets me know he is thinking about me, my boyfriends response was that he thinks about me all the time, never the less because he realised it was such a big deal he started doing it abit more, he still doesnt text me as much as I'd like (and still never calls) but I realise he is making an effort so I have learnt to live with that. Regarding the time situation... is there eventually going to be more time or will it always be this situation? If so you have to make a choice is the relationship worth putting up with all this hassle?
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