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writes:A few weeks ago me and my girlfriend were leaving a pub, and we were joking around, and then as we were talking I saw my coach there, and I accidentally let a word along the lines of go away but more harsh. It was a slip. She got really mad at me and was saying how she doesn't want us to be the couple where one says mean stuff to each other. Then today I saw my friend when I was with here and I asked him when are we going go to the main city (because I was going buy her a gift, but she didn't know) and she heard me. She kept asking why, but I couldn't tell her. Then all I heard from her was "^^ck off". I was shocked, and we went to get a coffee, i was quiet and ^^^sed off the whole time. She didn't realize what the big deal was until I explained everything to her. She apologized sincerely, but I'm still kind of sad/mad about her saying this. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Gauntlet  +, writes (29 December 2013):
 The experience is not so bad, from now you'll understand well how some people feel when others use bad words in front of them. It's alright, you're both maturing.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (28 December 2013):
 I know you didn't mean any harm, but you are probably one of those people who sound abrasive when they talk and people take it the wrong way. Why don't I refer her as abrasive? That depends on the frequency you had arguments over your word choice. If that's the first time she said "fuck off," it could mean she had enough of your unthoughtful speech and wanted you to taste your own medicine. If she is just as foul mouthed then I would say she has a double standard.
Learn to be a pleasant and smooth talker. You may not be used to this but if you make an effort then the rewards would be amazing.
Instead of saying, "go away," making her feel her presence is annoying and unwelcomed, say "I need a minute with her please."
Instead of saying, "I can't tell you," making her feel it's none of her business, say "It's a nice little secret and you will know later."
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