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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Do some people just attract the opposite sex even when they aren't trying? Is there such a thing as attraction-karma? My husband and I are both nice looking (so I hear) but when ever we go out to parties or events, women seem to descend on him the moment my back is turned. Yet on the other hand, men rarely ever approach me like that. Now I will say a few years ago, when I was with a different man, it was completely in reverse. I attributed it to the fact that I wasn't happy in the former relationship and maybe I was putting out vibes without realizing it. In that relationship, my man always complained that he couldn't leave my side for 5 min. without some guy making his way across the room to talk to me. Now I'm finding this same thing to be true with the man I'm with at the present time and it's really annoying. Could it be that when people are in relationships that aren't that fulfilling to them, they do put out some kind of cosmic vibes that other people pick up on? I've watched my husband (secretly) and he's really not looking at other women, he's not acting flirty but I swear women just seem to flock to his side. Do I need to be concerned? Because the thing that bugs me the most, is when I do walk the two of them continue talking as though I am invisible. Often I have to introduce myself, which further annoys me. What do you make of this?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (4 February 2013):
 you yourself nailed it..... people put out a vibe that says "come hither" when they need/want the ego stroke of attention....
you did it in an unhappy relationship... now your hubby's vibe is picked up.... it may be that he's not unhappy but rather just likes the attention....
my husband is clueless about this sort of thing and I pick up on girls going after him... (I'm much older than he is, he looks younger than he is and these young girls don't even view me as 'a threat' to their flirting.... of course the second they cross the line, he puts them in their place)
as for not stopping a conversation when I walk up... if the girls don't know me, when I walk up, if they are talking, hubby waits for a break and greets me with "oh hi hon, and maybe an arm around my waist and a kiss" which is all these girls need to be told that he's taken.
have you asked your hubby if he's happy in the marriage?
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reader, oldbag +, writes (4 February 2013):
 Hi
He must be something special and charismatic to attract all these women.
I don't think there is any reason it has anything to do with you or your previous relationship.A few years ago you were younger,that would help the attraction these men had for you. You were probably more confident too,another magnet.
Don't worry about it if you trust him, he is with you and probably just enjoys the extra attention a bit.The ball is in his court and he hasn't done anything wrong.Tell him how you feel,but don't ban him from going out without you.He's your man,he knows this
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