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writes:Hi I am in a long term relationship (been with the same guy since I was 16 with no break ups or anything).My problem is that in that time period I have cheated on him more than 10 times. He has no idea about it. There were a bunch of one night stands and three "affairs" with three different guys (two of them lasted 3 months, the other lasted 5). I don't know why I do this. I have uncontrolable sexual urges and I have a hard time controlling myself. I see an attractive man and I find myself introducing myself to him, and before I know, we're exchanging phone numbers and I'm calling him for a booty call a couple of nights later. There's just so many hot guys out there and it's so easy to cheat. I want to stop cheating on him. It has been probably about... 2 months since my last one night stand. How do I stop cheating... and should I tell him about it? He has been faithful to me as far as I know and I know that he is deeply invested in our relationship. Everytime we come close to breaking up he starts crying and says he needs me and would die without me. I am scared to hurt him.Help please.P.s. save your judgements, I know what I have done is very bad, and I don't need scolding.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly five years now. Nearly four years of it have been long distance. I can't stop cheating on him. It happens sporadically-not very often. After cheating on him for at least the tenth time, I have decided I need to break up with him. He has cheated on me twice and we have been really trying to work through it for ever now. I have sadly realized that it is time to let him go. I have a whole semester left of college away from him that I could break his heart again. I don't want to do that. Should we try to work it out until we can be together after college or should I just end it now?? God I don't want to hurt him again. I have to break it off--because I don't think he can.
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reader, 72rach  +, writes (25 January 2008):
Saving my judgment is very hard as my best friend has been through a relationship with a guy who couldn't help himself cheating..It tore her apart..ripped her heart out. If you feel u can't just see one man then why not let ur boyfriend go.. Let him find someone who will love him and stay faithful, in the meantime you can go out there and enjoy meeting these guys as a single woman.. But please remember there are a lot of STI's out there so use protection.
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reader, Zoggi +, writes (23 January 2008):
It could be that you have a sex addiction, or maybe you feel trapped in your relationship, and you're trying to escape from it.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (23 January 2008):
 What you did is your affairs and you should not dump your guilt on him by expressing it out to him.
Try not to go to those places where you can pick up those hot men.Maybe , you should look at your b/f from another girl's perspective and find the strong qualities in him.
You should feel that enough is enough and you want to start a new life .
Good Luck.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (23 January 2008):
Don't worry i won't scold you.All i'm gonna say is that my ex was just like that and one thing i sadly learnt is that people like you are either incapable of loving and are satisfied with physical intimacy or are just not ready for a serious committment.Do yourself a favour and your bf.Break up but apologise.You know he deserves better and right now being committed and faithful is too much to ask from you.I also cried when my ex left me but i've come to realise i'm better off without her.You don't love him like he loves you and staying with him will hurt him more.
Good Luck.
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