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Is there something wrong in our relationship?

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Question - (23 January 2011) 1 Answers - (Newest, 24 January 2011)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Dear Cupid

Me and my bf are together for an year. We are happy together, but i always feel like whenever he talks to me in a really emotional connected way, the next 2-3 days he'll try to avoid me as if he wants to undo the connection we felt for each other or not to be emotionally attached to me. I tried talking to him about this few times and he always brushes it off as if its nothing and im imagining things.

I am not sure whether this means something is wrong in the relationship or with him or me.

Please help me. Thanks a lot for reading

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A male reader, dirtball United States +, writes (24 January 2011):

dirtball agony auntJust an educated guess, but when he opens up, he gets afraid that you won't see him as a man anymore, so he distances himself to reclaim that "manhood" he lost.

Many men are taught from an early age that showing emotions other than happiness and anger is bad. "Boy's don't cry!" As such, many men have difficulty dealing with their emotions and emotional connections. Sometimes, they feel a near compulsion to 'undo' things that may make them perceived to be too emotional and thus, less of a man.

You can help him overcome this though. When you have these moments, immediately reinforce how much closer you feel to him now, and how much you love your man. And say it that way, tell him you love that he's YOUR MAN. Don't tell him how great it is that he's opening up, that will make him feel like one of your girlfriends.

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