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writes: Hi,I have a child by a man who lives more than an hours drive away from me. He visits often and adores the child, who is only 6 months old. I have told him I want us to get back together and he says he is unsure because he doesn't know if we get on well enough. I'm almost certain he has another woman in his life as he cannot see me at weekends (he says he has to sort his laundry and do things for his job) and can only see me regular set days: Tuesdays, Thursdays and Fridays. 2 of those days he likes to stay over as he says he works away from home those days and his firm pay for a hotel but he prefers to drive over and stay with me. He has always been mysterious, never giving me his address, or even telling me wat town he lives in or who he works for - I learnt that the things he has told me have been false.I'm not sure what to do: I'm not happy with not seeing very much of him and only seeing him on certain days, and I don't feel I trust him as far as not having another woman goes, although he swears blind he hasn't got one it seems odd that he chooses not to see me at weekends. He is 46, I'm 44. Anyone got any ideas? I have given him ultimatums but he just walks away crying that I won't let him see our child and I call him to come back. I know for a fact he doesn't have other children.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2006): If a man won't see you at weekends and can only manage work nights it is usually because he's married......This is a dreadful situation for you whatever the truth is. the thing is, you don't know the truth at all, you need to protect yourself and your child. put some boundaries in place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2006): hi,i dont think that he really wants to get together with you??if he did he would have took you up on your offer do you think he is just being nice to you to see his child i have been through this with both my childrens fathers and nothing ever worked out but i never stopped them seeing there children its horrible if you love the father of your child but its not worth beng together if its just for the kids....they always survive in the end its you who will get hurt.
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