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writes:I recently met a guy who clearly found me attractive. It took a while for me to notice but he started growing on me too. The complicated thing about it all is that we are both is relationships with children. I have three and he has 2.The chemistry between us over the last couple of months has become intense. Neither of us has said anything to each other to lead each on. We met at work and I have now left. I am worried that we may lose touch of each other. I only notice other men when I am unhappy in my own relationship and I have been for some years now. I am not into affairs or one night stands so i am taking this seriously.I have got to learn a little about him. He does find me easy to talk to and has confided in me about vatious things in relation to work, his health etc. When he talks about his domestic situation he only ever refers to his kids. You never hear his talk about this partner. He has asked me am I a Ms or Mrs and tried to prior into other things in my life.He has done some great things for me in relation to my work when we worked together for which I am really appreciative.Do you think there is potential?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust to update you. Thanks for your comments. They were well grounded. I HAVE now left my unhappy relationship. I HAVE now started to date this guy - early days - we have not become intimate yet. I HAVE found out more about him - He is a single parent - his wife died of cancer 3 years ago. He does not want it public knowledge. His elderly mother helps with his young daughters.
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reader, Carrot2000  +, writes (2 August 2010):
 If you want to leave YOUR unhappy relationship, you have every right to do so and I think it's great that you're taking responsibility for your own joy. What you do not have a right to do is assume he is also in an unhappy relationship and therefore you have a right to be with him or assume that his relationship is not repairable. With you out of the picture, he may very well be working harder to keep his family intact. Whatever the case may be, there is only potential if he leaves his family and it doesn't sound like he's done that or is even planning to do that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI dont know how coming out of an unhappy relationship can possibily ruin other lives. Why stay in something that you are not happy in. I feel I have been a wake call for him just as he has for me. I do not plan to start anything with him until I am clear what his status is.
My children have been so unhappy and pick up on my unhappiness. Their father will always be their dad but if I am happy, I am sure they will be too.
We only live once. I am not into runining lives. Loads of people separate and find more compatible partners and their lives have not been runined!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): There is deffo potential here. A potential to destroy your and others lifes and believe me,you will.
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