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writes:Hi GuysI actually saw a similar question to this posted a few days ago so apologies for the almost repeat content. I decided to ask it in my own words anyway because there are aspects which differ compared to the other question I saw. Anyway enough rambling, here for my issue:There is this girl that I have seen on social networking sites, she is a friend of a "friend" and I'm slowly finding myself more and more interested in her. She is very attractive to me and seems to have other traits that I like. I know it seems absolutely ridiculous to "like" someone purely based on what you have seen online as I have never met this girl in person but I am finding this is the case. I really want to be able to talk to her to see if she really is someone I'd be interested in, but there are no ways that our paths would cross in real life as she lives at least a couple of hours away. The mutual "friend" we have isn't a particularly close one of mine so it seems awkward to me to ask her to "set us up". I know this all sounds really pathetic and creepy and I am prepared for whatever abuse I might get for asking this, but is there anyway that I can chat to this girl WITHOUT it seeming creepy? Thank you so much for hopefully not laughing at me! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2015): I'm the one who originally posted this message by the way.
Firstly, thank you for your response.
Secondly, thank you for your advice, it does help a bit. I guess part of the issue is do I add her as a friend first or do I just message her because I know sometimes messages from non friends can go into the "Other" box and not be seen.
The other thing is the distance we live from each other. I can't help but think that she would be thinking why on earth is this guy wanting to meet me when he lives no where near. It just doesn't seem practical for something that is mostly an aesthetic attraction at this point.
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (1 June 2015):
I once got asked out by a guy on facebook simply based on the fact he liked my picture. He didn't even have the "friend of a friend" excuse. He just told me he really liked my picture and that we seemed to have similar interests and if I'd like to meet sometime. So we chatted for a couple of days to see if we got along and after that I went on a date with him.
So, that's what I'd do. Just go for it. I mean, what's the worst that can happen? She might reject you but at least you tried. Just make sure you make it as comfortable as you can for her. The guy who approached me eventually wanted to meet up at his house, but that sounded way too dodgy to me.
I almost cut it off right then and there and we only met up because he agreed to go to a public place. So if she does agree to meet up, always suggest a public place and start out with something low key like coffee or something.
Remember, she doesn't know you so she has no reason to trust you.
Anyway, I'm getting ahead of myself. You gotta send the message first. "I hope this doesn't sound too forward, but I stumbled across your profile and you seem very likable and interesting. Since there's little chance of us passing each other on the street, I figured I'd start here and ask if you'd be interested in getting to know me too." And then sign off with your name. This is just something I cooked up just now, but maybe you can use it as a starting point.
Good luck!
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