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writes:i had a school friend. we joined college together and she introduced me to her new girl friend.i fell in love with tht ga l[say 'mir'] from the 1st sight. well its been almost two years and i still couldn't tell her that i love her. we dont meet atall but we have some small talks when n if we coincidently met. she has the hint tht i love her cause everyone knows about it. but its from my side only. cause i think she has someone in her life too. i am soon going abroad n i don think i will ever meet her again. but i know i will regret if i dont tell her before i leave. i have gone through many sites but the answers they gave me wasnt enough. it could be possible that it is a problem from myside. but i m keen to learn a way out of this. i have to tell her and i got 2 months in hand before i leave. she is also in ma friends list in facebook. well, atleast i dont message her atall. so anything that can soothe me?...
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reader, Alessandro  +, writes (29 March 2009):
If you find it difficult to talk to her... Write her a letter.I know it might sound crazily old-fashioned, but trust me, nothing beats a letter in the sort of situation you're talking about. I can relate because I once knew a girl whom I really, really liked (at the time I would have told you it was love) but I couldn't say anything to her about it. I just didn't know where to start, the emotions felt so powerful and I was worried that I would mess it up if I tried to tell her how I felt. So I wrote a letter, detailing everything I felt, I wrote it all down, every thought, every emotion. I ended up writing about 12 sides of A4.At first I had no plans to send her the letter, but once I'd written it all out and I read it back, it just seemed so honest, so genuine to what I was feeling, that I thought "screw it!" and just went and mailed that letter to her.Now, sadly, from a happy-ending point of view, we never got together. She had just gotten into a relationship with someone else and I didn't know about it at the time. But to this day I'm damn glad that I let her know how I was feeling. Why? Because I did my best. I was honest and true to the emotions I felt at the time and I did all I could to let the girl know where I was and what I wanted. I'm actually still in contact with the girl now and I now realise that we were never really that compatible anyway, in a romantic sense, which was probably one of the reasons why I struggled to talk to her about my emotions. She's great to have as a friend though and I'm glad we still are friends.So just do it. Write down everything you feel, everything you would like to say to her. And then... just send it. At least then she knows, and the ball's in her court, god knows you've had it in your court for long enough.Trust me you'll feel better about the fact that she finally knows what you're really thinking, and that in itself will make it worth it. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): Are you waiting for a written invitation? - you aren't going to get one....
Get on with it. What are you waiting for the consensus from the world?
For crying out loud... Get on with it.
choose between telling her and spending a life wishing you had.
Star.x.
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