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writes: OK, so this is a long confusing story, but i'll just give the highlights. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 2 years now and we couldn't be happier. However, I have two goy friends that I use to date, but we are only friends now. My best girl friend and those two guy friends, and I do everything together and hang around all the time. My boyfriend never has a problem with it because we trust eachother and he knows the two guys i hang around with. Well about 4 days ago I was planning on going camping with my two guy friends and my other girl friend, but then we decided not too. I had never mentioned anything to my boyfriend about it because I never got the chance. Had we decided to go through with it, I deffinately would have told him. Anyway, my boyfriend found out that we were going camping, (even though we weren't anymore) and called me up saying that I lied to him and I couldn't be trusted and then broke up with me. So I called him the next day trying to explain the whole story to him and telling him that I never lied to him, and he is upset that I would even consider it to be ok to go camping with two other guys. Everyone I talked to says that he just needs some time to cool off and should come to his senses, but I just really want to work things out with him. What do you think I should do? Is there anything I could do to get him back?
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reader, Mr S  +, writes (18 July 2006):
 I would suggest that the first thing you do is put yourself in his position. How would you feel if he was going away camping with two attractive girls? Then add that you found out by accident. This would probably lead to you feeling betrayed.
What you need to do is talk to him face to face and explains the facts about the trip. This is a situation that I have seen often. One person finds information out about the other and adds there own interpretation to it. This often leads to conflict. You must always be honest and communicate with your partner; however your partner should trust you enough to be able to ask you when they find out information such as this and accept the answer. Trust should be one of the cornerstones of any relationship. Jealousy, envy and distrust will only destroy a good relationship and cause problems.
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reader, Martyrmachine +, writes (17 July 2006):
 yes, because this seems a bit temporary from him. obviously your relationship is strong, and little things like this usually act as milestones of 'things we've been through'.
i wouldnt suggest you calling him (because hanging up is a negative factor), so try talking to him in person, and talking things over, and tell him that you really REALLY never had the chance of telling him that you were.
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