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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:ive been dating my boyfrend over a year now, and at first everyhing was fine. we got on well, the sex was great and we always had a laugh. we were so close, with each other all of the time and seemed to trust each other loads. now everything has seem to gone down the drain, hes very possessive, i never hardleys get to go out or do much because i have a sort of past for sleeping around, he finds it very hard to trust me. if it was anyone else i would have left them by now but the thing is he isnt just paranoid about me he has a real problem trusting people and always thinks people dont beleive things he says and lots of other things, so anways the sex has become less frequent. but when we have it it seems to be fantastic. i really enjoy it and would love to have it every day the way we used to but now im lucky if its once a week. i try and wonder what i could be doing to spice things up but i think everythings good and when ive asked him this he says the same. we always seem to argue and fight. Things only seem good when we "kiss and make up" i know a relationship cant rely on the makeup its self but what can help us?we still have a laugh and get on quite well but unfortunately not for long. we go out and do things together quite often but things just dont ever feel the same. do you think our relationship has completely fizzled out or just needs a little help? i love my partner very much and although i often feel unhappy when were arguing and everything, but i know id be even unhappier without him as id be missing him terribly. Is there anything anyone can advise doing to get the spark back into our relationship and make us become closer? weve tried going on a break but after a while things fall into the same routine. i feel worn out with trying to make things work i just want everything to go back to normal again. has anyone had the same problem or can give me any good advice on what to do??
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (29 May 2007):
 Communication here is key. he needs to talk to you about his feelings and why he feels them and you need to give him the confidence he needs.
You both sound like you enjoy each others company so dont waste any time and arrange an evening together, no interuptions and just the two of you and really get things out in the open. Tell him how you feel how you expressed yourself on the website, just be honest with him. Him seeing you open up will hopefully encourage him to do the same.
All the best.
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reader, candy00s +, writes (28 May 2007):
 If there are trust issues and he is unable to overcome them then there is little hope of your relationship working.
Perhaps you both need to talk things through, explain that you love him and that he can trust you - that you have no interest in other men you only want to be with him.
I think that you can make this work you just need him to overcome his jealousy.
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