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writes:Ok sorry if this is kinda longI cheated on my bf 10 months ago, and he dumped me as soon as i told him. we had been going out for 8 months and he was the love of my life! We had so many good memories and good times and things i know that both of us well never forget. But while i was at camp...i cheated on him, i made out with this guy a few times and let him touch my boobs for a few seconds...But all that made me realise how much i loved my bf! and how emotionless doing stuff with this guy was. Every day at camp i would cry becuase i knew he would dump me, and of corse, he did.After that i became really insecure about myself, i would always worry about everything! little things i would make into these huge deals, and i pushed guys away. And i also became really sexual with guysi relised that i went out with so many guys becuase i was trying to stop loving him, but no matter what i did i couldnt stop.now everything ive ever regreted doing, has just made him hate me more, he is soo mean to me, but sometimes it gets better, but then it becomes worse again! how can i stop loving this guy?! i need help, i cant forgive myself for cheating, and i cant get over him (btw i see him every day at school)please help!!
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reader, Royofthe Rovers  +, writes (28 May 2007):
 You made a large mistake and now you have to learn how to deal with it. Learning from what you have done and what you have become is something you have to look at before you start to heal yourself.
You can not blame him for being angry at you and i would give the space he needs at the moment.
How can you stop loving him?
Over time your feelings for him will fade but maybe not disappear, as long as you realise how you got where you are and that you have learnt from all this thats as much as you can do. You have hurt someone in a way that is almost unforgivable and you have to realise what and how he feels about you. Knowing he loved you and you betrayed him is going to hurt him more than you probably know.
Give him the space he needs for the moment, this will aid your recovery as well.
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reader, candy00s +, writes (28 May 2007):
 You made a stupid mistake and you realised what you did was wrong, by telling him what happened shows you loved him because you couldnt lie to him.
Talk to him and tell him that what happened was a huge mistake and that you realised this before things went too far.
If you can work things out then you will have to rebuild his trust in you again - this will be hard as he is feeling hurt which is why things between you are awkward.
If you can work things out with him then you have to let go, learn from your mistake and move on.
Take time out from dating and dont put yourself out there, take things slowly.
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