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writes:I have a quick question. I am a freshman in high school and I've been kinda lonely since all of my friends have girlfriends and I wish I had someone to talk to and stuff like they do. The only problem is that it seems like no girls like me. I'll admit, I am a little on the "big" side, but I'm still fun to be around and it seems like I can make the girls laugh and have fun. My question is is there any way to kinda like "help" make a girl like me? I know I can't force someone to like me, but is there a way to make her feel the same way? Answers from girls would help the most, but guys answers are fine too. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): Hey dude my advice is work on your self confidence. I used to have a weight problem and i worked at it. Im sooooo much happier now and im comfortable talking to the lasses. I recommend (not that you have to) you start exercising and you'll find your a lot happier. You might feel like you need a girlfriend NOW, but if you do the hard work and work at yourself now, you'll have so much more time for girlfriends later. =)
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reader, andrew loves hali +, writes (28 February 2009):
 just be yourself you want to be with someone who likes you for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2009): well heck all of your friends so what if the girl that you like isnt popular and isnt smart. its you not your friends just to remember.well last year my g/f was just my best friend and we were always together. she's with me everywhere i go and i'm with her wherever she goes. (and surely we arent popular at the school and we are not even smart but alot of people knows both of us and all those people told us to go out and stuff but i wasnt able at the time 'casue she went out with a drugee and all our friends hated the guy 'cause he abuses her emotionally and every person i knew and she knew told me to just go out with her and so as one of our teachers at that time. well at first i didn't know what to say and i already love her for being more that just a best friend and later on i found out that she loves me the same way and we went out and it's liek the whole entire school was at a party when they found out that we started dating now we are together for 8 wonderful months.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, if you ask the other guys in my class, they'll say the girl I like isn't exactly the most popular or prettiest girl in my class. She's also not the smartest tool in the shed but that's kinda what makes her attractive to me. I'm also not the neediest kid in school either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2009): Yes. Don't go after the girls that you're trying to 'get'. I surmise you are trying to get the type of girls that are simply not interested in you.
Realistically looking at this: the biggest nerd in the school is NOT going to be able to date the 'hottest', most popular and smartest girl in the school. Most likely not until after high school and after university when a lot of things can possibly change.
Advice: so, if you really want a girlfriend for whatever purpose at your age, then befriend one that is within your personality's grasp and interest.
If you want to go for someone who is beyond your personality's grasp and interest, then you will need to change/adjust/upgrade yourself to broaden that chance.
For example, I have a friend during high school who did not dress well, acted immaturely (not like 70% of high schoolers aren't), spent most of his time putting rockets and robots together and followed Star Trek TNG like the religious are to their gods. The girl he ever had physical contact with was a study partner that occasionally bumped into him literally in the hallways.
Twelve years later, he's one freakin handsome dude with a nice car, two actually, a nice house, a hot wife, great personality, cheerful and when he laughs, everyone around him can't help but laugh with him. Mind you, in the last ten years, he's gone through a lot of adjusting and upgrading.
The point of this story is that if you want something beyond what you can have at the moment, you need to do something about it. If you want more girls to like you, then you need to broaden yourself to cater to their attraction factors.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2009): I'm quite a bit older than you are, but when I was your age (wow, I sound old!), I really liked guys who were funny and smart and easy to talk to--qualities you seem to have. I encourage you to keep being yourself, but make sure you're not so funny that girls think you are a clown--that's a surefire way to make sure you always wind up in the "friend" category. Girls like guys who are confident--don't let your size hold you back. Also, get involved in after-school activities. That's a great way to hang out with girls and show them how wonderful you are!
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reader, Islander +, writes (28 February 2009):
 well its mostly self-respect, confidence an being yourself are the most important things and if you like a girl then tell her how you feel and let her see it that you really like her and dont let the "big side of you get in your way.
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