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writes:So I am 25 years old. I met a guy through some online dating thing a couple of months ago he is 21 he was a very sweet guy and we still talk a little but lately hes been acting weird not talking to me as much. He still says he wants me to be in his life but I dont know. I am pretty hurt because before I met this guy I had a boyfriend I was seeing for a while and he was so good to me the only problem was he lived kinda far he was 25 also. For a while though I felt I had better chemistry with the guy I met online. When we first met we talked for such a long time as if we knew eachother longer. Basically I still want a relationship with him. Im just not sure what to do at this point. Is there any way I could make this work out with him?
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reader, randyrachy  +, writes (30 June 2010):
 Lots of people have the same problmes that you do in this area, and alot are still confused by it. Firstly although relationships were a couple meet online can be difficult but there is also a vast majority that do work out (ne been one of them as I have been with mine for almost 4 years and married a yr and half of them.)
Im sure that I dont need to warn you about the dangers of people not being who they say they are online as you are probably well aware of them, but you still have to think about how much you truly do no about this man as things may have been said just to comfort you and make you feel like hes the one for you. I no it sounds very strange but people do do this as it makes them feel better noing that they have given someone hope and made them feel loved, its a reassurance to them more than the people that they think they are helping but end up hurting more than they help.
In what you have said in you post personally I do not think that there can be any kind of happy future for YOU with this man. But the good side is if you think/know that this guy could be the one that you want to be with just think:
Is he always on your mind, no matter how much you try to forget about him.
Does the world seem to light up whenever you speak to him whether or not its over the phone or online etc.
Everyone says that you just no when the right person has come along but I dont think so. You dont see it coming until hes there and you think 'omg look how far we have come and I dint evan realise'.
There is no easy solution to you problem, all you can do is ake your time, if you ahve to constantly work to get this guy to open up or even get ntouch with him then he has obviously lost an interest and you should try to find out why this could be without hurting yourself. I just truly hope that you didnt finish with your previous boyfriend based on how the online guy made you feel.
I would really like to continue to help you with this, so please feel free to mail ither through here or my personal email address [email address blocked].
Although I have triedd my best the information that you have put is fairly limited and I am sure that with more information then I would be able to help you even further.
Hope to hear from you soon and Take care hunny,
Ransy Rachy
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