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writes:We were good friends in college, we were very comfortable with each other. We used to jokingly talk about making out and stuff. He was in a relationship and broke off a year back. Since then he said he is not ready for a relationship. I do not like him either, it's just one day we decided to meet up at his place and dunno.. who started it but we made out. We made out thrice after that. We were both ok with it.. we kinda made this no feelings deal.. though we both realized what we were doing is wrong. Then two days back he said whatever happened was stupid and wrong and we should stop. We did but now I feel I have lost a good friend, even though we told each other everything will be normal.. I don't want to lose him... Should I give him his space??Should I wait till he calls me or messages me himself.. Is there any way I could gain his friendship back if hes feeling awkward.. Please I desperately need help Reply to this Question
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reader, Apps +, writes (10 January 2009):
Apps is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni want him to get to know me...i want us to get together..pls..help..
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reader, petina1  +, writes (12 December 2008):
 I usually think that when you have sexual relations with a 'friend' then the line has crossed and it's very very difficult to get what you had back. It does happen sometimes but mainly its awkward. For instance, if he does get a girlfriend and she finds out that you are his 'friend', then she finds out you have slept with him cos these things nearly always come out into the open, then she will make it difficult for you to be his friend after that. Thats just one scenario. It may be best to just say 'hi' or 'bye' when you see him and not dwell on the other stuff. I can't help thinking a one off is okay, but three times, i think there may be some attraction there, or maybe i could be wrong. If I am then I would try not to have sex with him again or that in itself could become a habit and all respect will be lost. hope this helps.
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