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writes:Me and this girl started dating about September and we had real good compatibility. I loved her and she loved me but recently she broke up with me said to me that she doesn't feel the same way about me that she used to. One reasons she said why she broke up with me was that i pretended to listen but, didn't truly listen to her. Can someone help me out here plz. Is there way i can change the way she feels about me.
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reader, Ayan Ganguly  +, writes (14 June 2012):
 Can't help to say,"Men Will be Men".. and my friend you are not the first one who have faced this situation. It's never too late to apologize to your partner for your mistake and when you do apologize make sure you mean it and try not to repeat the same thing again... get in touch with her and apologize and say & show her how much you love her and what she means to you... give it a try at least on your part and leave the rest to destiny..but i somehow do get a feeling that you two would be together again if you do rectify yourself...all the best..god be with you
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (14 June 2012):
 Can I help you change the way she feels? no. Can I help you learn from your mistake? Yes.
Poor listening is a common problem for men of all ages. One of the difficulties is that we hate to stop thinking about what we were thinking about when other people start talking to us. A good idea is to hold up your hand and say wait a second. Then clear your mind, or jot down a note about what you were thinking about. Then give the other person your full attention. Look them in the eye and wait for them to finish talking. When they finish ask any questions you may have to help clarify. Agree or disagree to what they are saying. If they ask you to do something, tell them exactly when you will do it.
Another difficulty is that when people talk to you they automatically assume that you will agree with them or do what they are asking. That is why it is important to agree or disagree verbally and clearly. Also why it is important to commit specifically to action.
Practice this on you Mom or on your teachers. Being an active listener is an important life skill that will help you not only in relationships, but also in work and education.
At your age breakups are expected. One thing or another will go wrong. You are in a stage of life where you should be experimenting and learning. This relationship was a wonderful and fun experiment. You can treasure your fond memories. The best thing to do now is to learn from your mistakes, and move on.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (14 June 2012):
 if she no longer feels that feeling you can't make her.
what you need to do is hear what she said and use it to grow as a person... did you not listen to her?
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