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*ifeisatrustwalk
writes:My ex-girlfriend and I were together for four years. I'm a sophomore in college and she's a freshman now, and we never had any problems, ever. We were the kind of couple anyone could ever want to be, never lied to one another so full of love. However, this past summer I just wasn't trying as hard and she thought I felt a different way about her than I use to feel. She thought my feelings were driven off of lust rather than love. So she started going out and hanging out with her friends alot in order to be happy, since I wasn't cutting it for her at the time. We broke up two days before school started and well this semester was a disaster for me. I did all the wrong things to get her back and to focus on my future. Partied, hooked up with girls, and just drank way too much, and would always call her when i was drunk, and see her drunk or just when we argued. It wasn't healthy, or going anywhere. This past week, I found out she has a new boyfriend, who is a gentlemen, 21, and wants to take things slow with her. You know the whole package. I don't know what to do anymore, because the whole past semester I tried not just getting her back but also getting over her in case it didn't happen. I came to the conclusion that I really am in love with her, and that I've always been. What can I do to get her back from this guy that sounds better than perfect. I haven't gone one single day since we've broken up without having her on my mind.
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reader, lifeisatrustwalk +, writes (13 January 2011):
lifeisatrustwalk is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell i know im still young, but i came to the conclusion when your life turns into a nightmare the day someone leaves and nothing seems like itll ever be okay anymore, no matter what you try to do, maybe that person is the one for you. This girl would always get me through any hardships i would face together, i never really had anything bother me while i was with her because in all reality, nothing mattered enough to. She really didnt know about me hooking up with girls until after i had a talk with her when i found out about her and her new boyfriend. I really changed for the better, and into the kind of person she wanted me to be last semester, but couldnt find happiness without her, and that's when things started going bad. I really tried the whole semester to get her back, but just kept doing the typical ex boyfriend things, whiched just pushed her away. I appreciate the honesty even if you think its harsh, its better to be honest and straight to the point then sugarcoating it. And I just wanted to know maybe even though you think that's it do i really have any other option as well, because i know its the real deal with her, ive known this girl since we were in grade school, since we were little kids, its that kind of i know her better than anyone else does and i'll always have this kind of love for her as long i'll live. I really don't want to let her go, she still means the world to me, and she shouldn't in the least bit now that she's with a new guy, but I just can't control the way i feel about her.
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