Is there any hope or not?

A male age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Ok, to make a ver long story short. Recently (Sep. 6, 2007) my girlfriend and I of over 2 years split up. We are both sophomores in college yet we go to school in different states. My ex and I grew up together, we went to the same grade school, middle school, and high school. Just before our senior year of high school we began dating. It was one of those love at first sight kind of deals. We were together almost every day for the first year and half of our relationship. We both were very open with our feelings and we both told each other we loved each other. She really cared about me and was rather jealous of a few girls that were friends of mine. She went to college but commuted the first sememster of our freshmen year, as did I. However she then moved out of state for the second sememester of our freshmen year and I stay back home. We were now 2 hours away and it made our relationship a bit harder. When she left for school we started arguing more, it was both of our insecurities I would say. We were always worried about the other one. This issue however started to die off once the semester drew closer to an end. She came home from school and we had a great summer. We had many fun times with only a few arguments. I think every relationship has its differences right? Anyways, the night before she left for this semester she told me how much she loved me, she also said she didn't want to leave for school and that she will miss me very much. I said the same and off she went. Literally 4 days after she left we got into an argument, a rather stupid one. we both said things we didn't mean and she broke it off. I figured we would talk things over and get back together but thats not the case. I didnt see her until she came home this past weekend, oct 20. After we broke up she told me she needed space, she needed time to think. We would talk maybe once a week but I always pleaded for her to come back. This only made it worse. When she came home we talked about the fun times we had and also the fights we had. I gave her a card saying sorry for the things I said and thanking her for being a wonderful girlfriend. When she read the card she started crying. She still didn't want to rekindle things though. She said I havn't given her time to breathe. She is very involved in school and I think she kind of likes being flirty. I told her before she left to go back that I won't contact her. When she comes home for thanksgiving break or christmas break I'll just see her then. So my main questions are, now that im giving her her space, should I try to bring our relationship up the next time I see her which won't be for at least a month. I really love the girl and am willing to do anything for her. She wants her space so I am giving it to her, She told me the other day that she hasn't changed as a person and even though she doesn't show her feelings they havn't gone away. Is there any hope for me. Im trying to tell myself to not hold on to any hope because the chances are probably slim. It's a lot easier said than done however.

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A female reader, mizzy.mara  +, writes (23 October 2007):

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