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writes:My wife hasn't been talking to me for about the past week. We video back and forth, in different countries, but she never has much to say. I finally kept asking her what the matter was and she finally answered... She says she feels emotionally broke in our relationship.To explain a little about myself, both my parents have passed away in the past six years, and I've become somewhat insecure with any relationship, to include my 8year old son from a previous marriage. My wife and I have been together for over 4 years now and have had a lot of ups and downs. I truly thought we were on the up-and-up.She explained that my sarcasm, jealousy, and insecurity are all problems she's brought up before, but I haven't ever really dealt with it.I finally saw exactly what she was saying. I do tend to joke sarcastically with her a lot, almost like she's one of the guys. I can't even begin to explain my jealousy, I honestly don't believe she'd cheat on me and I know she hasn't. As for my insecurity... she's all I really have left besides my son.On the other hand, she doesn't exactly open up to me either... will call her Mom 7 times a day, but barely talks to me.She says she's willing to talk to me about this, but she just doesn't know if our marriage is what she wants anymore. I love my wife with all my heart and trust her the same. She's been my best friend since we met... I've called a counselor and will start regular sessions soon, but is there any hope of gaining back her trust or has she simply been pushed to far?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2008): Hi Hunny,
You have started the right way love you have called a counsellor, Im sending you a link hunny it may help inbetween sessions. I understand the jokes as you feel she is your best mate and you treat her that way, Thats fine if all is happy, My fella and I have that kind of relationship and its lovely, But if your insecuritys and jealousy have creeped in there inbetween then she will feel your not taking her seriously when she wanted to talk on a serious level, You have lost two of the most important people in your life over the last 6YRS and maybe you havent dealt with this, as I feel this is probably when you got scared to loose your wife and son and this is were it all started (I MAY BE WRONG)
http://www.psychresources.net/insecurity.html
Here is a link hunny, I do hope this works out for you and your marriage get back on track TAKE CARE HUNNY WITH LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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