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writes:alright, so im 16 years old and on numerous occasions i have tried to engage in sexual intercourse with different girls.very time things are going good untill the very part where its time to put my penis in, i go soft. i have researched this and have been told over and over its things like premature ejaculation and performance anxiety. but i want to know how to solve this. i feel its important to know however that on the most recent occurence, me and the girl spent 45 minutes argueing about a spot to go and she told me she didnt have alot of time so i was pretty stressed but other times i have been relaxed. could this be a cause? i can get perfectly rock solid for a long time when im by myself, but not with girls. and id prefer if i could with girls. pleasIse help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2010): Sounds like you are just looking to stick your penis in a vagina. This is no approach to sex - you are signing up for performance anxiety. Just relax, get to know girls well before you attempt sex. Take them on dates, give them hugs and kisses, let yourself develop crushes or fall in love. Then, when the time for sex comes, you will have no trouble and it will feel fantastic.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (16 July 2010):
 It can happen if both the people are not completely comfortable. Don't sweat it, try not to take the stress and 'performance pressure' on yourself. When you're with the right girl, even if it takes a few tries, you'll get there. Trust me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2010): I had this same problem when I was 17 and a virgin. It's all about getting through this first experience. It didn't finally work until I master aged one day before my girl came over. Even then...I was no Ron Jeremy...in fact it was pretty bad...but it worked. Next time...better....the next time even better...and so on. Just relax and get through it. Once you've done it and gotten over the hurdle of "being a virgin" it's smooth sailing...until you get married.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2010): i think if this were with a girl you have spent a lot of time with and feel comfortable with there would be less pressure on you to perform. spend more time making out, and kissing, touching and getting to know each other. let what happens come naturally instead of a plan to have sex and the pressure to "do it" before the night is over. be prepared of course with a condom just in case, but take more time with foreplay. if you are trying to have sex, just because it seems like the thing to do, maybe subconsciously you dont really want to? find someone you have strong feelings for and date them until it happens spontaineously. mal
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2010): dude why you want to get laid so bad, your 16, why not wait till your older so you don`t feel regret over getting a girl knocked up.
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