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writes:so there is this guy that i really like... somedays he flirts, LOTS. other days he just kinda treats me like a friend (only paying a little more attention to me than he would any other girl). the other night was girls night for me and a friend, but we invited him and another guy to watch movies with us, pretty much just outta curiosity. he said he'd probably show up, and he did! i took it as a good sign. he sat on the far side of the couch, bad sign. but as the night wore on he found little excuses to get closer. example... he scooted over the the middle cushion, lifted the one he was sitting on off the couch and hit his buddy with it. he didn't move back over. then, a few minutes later, he leaned over onto his arm (in my direction). our friends left the room, and he just stayed there and sat with me, but we didn't really talk about much (i'm shy, maybe he is too..??)thing is, when i first met this guy he was really outgoing... wasn't afraid to look me right in the eye or say anything! lately, things have changed... he's becoming more reserved. my friend even said she was pretty sure she caught him blushing, twice, because of me or around me. also, a one point, she asked (whispered to him) if he liked me... he looked over, smiled, and said he didn't wanna answer that right then. all these things could be take either way... good or bad. but what do y'all think?! please aunts, i need help! i really like this guy... is there a possibility he is falling for me too?
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reader, JazzedUp  +, writes (12 August 2010):
 Okay you need to act on this fast...as a guy I safely say that he most likely does have feelings for you. That wonderful! But with guys, time is of the essence. We have a tendency to let our minds rot us away from the inside when we like a girl. And I don't mean he's second guessing himself in a bad way.
If I may steal a few lines from Inception (Completely true)...
Guys 9 out of 10 times infect their own minds by letting the thought that "She's too good for me". This sounds crazy because most guys play off themselves as on cloud nine as far as self esteem goes.
We hide it really, really good. Lol.
From what you've said, I say that he does like you and that you should definitely talk to him. Tell him your feelings for him. Life is all about taking chances, even though I believe you have this one in the bag. Guys don't go for the whole "Just friends" thing unless you're like the girl he grew up with or some similar instance. He's put off all of the signals I would if I was in his situation. So I say go for it. Your best bet would be to arrange another group activity like you had before but only invite girls that you trust to be there, and make your intentions known to them before the guys arrive.
I really do not think you have anything to worry about. The future looks really bright for you =)
Oh and you mentioned shyness on you and his behalf. I say just play it off. Good, honest, guys (the kind you want to date) LOVE shy girls.
Shy girls are like a Rubik cube to us. We see them as a puzzle, that you have to solve little by little. Instead of sluts and whores who just throw it all out there, shy girls keep their crushes guessing and we eat that s**t up (pardon my french). We like having to ask questions, guess your thoughts, test theories of your intents. It keeps us guessing. Some girls are the same way about shy guys. They love shyness because it automatically sets off a "Mysterious side" effect, making the girl want to know all about him. If he's this way, there are two good ways to get him to let you in.
1. Just admit your shyness to him. He will relate to it if he is, and if he isn't he'll still be hooked because now he wants to solve the puzzle of your mind.
2. Try to solve his puzzle. Ask questions, make guesses, share your own experiences, and just have fun. The most answers to the shyness puzzle come from the things you commonly talk about.
I hope this helps, and I feel a bit under qualified to be answering your question since I'm still in high school myself, but I stand behind my opinions and I hope you and this lucky guy get along just fine. Best wishes =)
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