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writes:For the last 7 years, i have been in a casual relationship with my ex boyfriend. It has been fun and all, but I dont want to contiue on with this relationship as it has become quite empty and meaningless. I do like him very much, but our relationship is based exclusivly on sex. Its taken some time to get to this point of accepting that he will never want anything more than this, and so i feel it would be helpful to put this to an end. I just dont know how to go about saying it to him. I have a bad habbit of sounding awfully cold when talking about emotions and things, so i was wondering whether there is a nice way of putting it to him? Thank you in advance
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (8 May 2009):
 Tell him you love him enough to let him go. If you are scared about being cold, put it to him that way.
The only draw back is that you and I both know that remaining "friends" will be next to impossible, so after 7 years of a relationship, don'ty be surprised if he takes it badly.
I understand that you want to move on, but realize that you will most likely break his heart. either way there is just no easy way to do these things.
Choose your words carefully, because I am sure how you say it will determine whether you two may find each other again in the future, or he will harbor a lifetime of resentment towards you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009): Tell him that although you do not regret a thing, you now feel that you would like more than a casual relationship, so you are going to end what you have with him on a friendly basis and persue what you are looking for.
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