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writes: Hi all - I need some advice about my ex.We broke up quite a while ago now, many months ago and whilst it was hard at first, things are getting easier and I've dated other people and things are moving on. I feel like i'm pretty much over him. He's now moved quite far away and to keep in touch with his friends he will send group emails filling us in on what is going on with him. That's fine but I really don't like the fact that he has me on this list as receiving his emails makes me uncomfortable, especially as he talks about his new girlfriend who he dumped me for.I don't know what to do because if I email back and say don't send me these I sound like I'm a nut who hasn't got over him but receiving them makes me feel very uncomfortable and brings up old feelings which I had got passed. I feel its particularly inappropriate that i just get bundled in with his friends when our ending was pretty awful and I have to hear about his new girlfriend and how happy they are and what a good time they are having. Most of the time I delete them without reading them but when they come up on outlook even without me even opening them, the first paragraph or two pops up so there is sort of no escape.Am I overeacting? Is there a good way to get of this list without sounding like a pathetic, angry, jealous woman? Why would he include me in this list? Any advice appreciated! Cheers
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (21 January 2006):
 How your request to be left off his email list is received depends on how you go about making it, don't you think?
Lucky Man is right. Simply say 'Thanks for thinking of me and for keeping me updated on your life, but I'd rather you didn't send these to me for now.' If you're on reasonably good terms with him, you could add that you'll be in touch when you can. Or simply leave it at that.
He'd have no reason to think you were pathetic if you make a reasonable request reasonably.
I don't think you're overreacting, but he may not be aware that his emails are causing you distress. Only you would know if he's the sort of person who'd do this to bait you, but from what you write, it doesn't seem so. It's probably more a case of obliviousness.
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