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writes:I love to give my boyfriend oral and receive tremendous satisfaction from pleasing him. I like to swallow his cum, however, it takes about 15 minuets of working him hard and fast to get my (and his) reward. I wrap my top lip over my teeth so I don’t hurt him, but with all this action, my teeth cut into my flesh and cause me irritation or bleeding. Sometimes I have to stop because of the pain, and I feel crushed about not getting him to orgasm in this way. Is there a device or method anyone can recommend me that will reduce or eliminate the pain? Is there a mouth guard out there specifically for this purpose?By the way, he is a fair lover and is never disappointed with my effort, but I love him deeply and want to be the best I can be for him.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (13 June 2010):
 lol.. man's opinion.. then that's all sorted, we heard it from the horses mouth.. :)
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (13 June 2010):
 Well here's the truth from one man's perspective: Once the woman has applied a reasonable amount of oral, and I think that part of the issue here is 'not enough associated hand technique,' then he should possibly release within ten minutes or much less time. It usually depends on a number of factors. Some that would potentially cause too much time, or even failure to climax, include intoxication, drug use, anxiety, stress or a number of things going on.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (12 June 2010):
15 mins of hard and fast... mmmm.. sorry to disagree, but this is not experienced technique.
As has been mentioned before, with good technique a man comes when you want him too.. in seconds, minutes or much, much longer...
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 June 2010):
 Oh wow, talk about bragging. I think 15 min is too quick. Sometimes I get lucky and the right moves so that it only lasts 7 min or less, but in general I think I quit before I even get a man there because it is just too much work and I get tired! So in average I think I need at least 20-25 minutes to work a man there. But I think 15 min is fast... To top it of, in case you feel the need to say I must be doing it wrong, the feedback I've gotten is that Im the best they've ever come across. So, which one is it? I don't think this girl is taking too long and using all wrong techniques, I think she needs to take her time and ease on the pressure on her lips. It sounds like she is doing the same move over and over and over which is causing this irritation.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (12 June 2010):
Over more than 45 years (I'm now a senior, obviously) I've enjoyed a multitude of oral favors from a number of women, averaging probably 2-3 per week over periods of many years. Favors were most always reciprocal, but none of the women ever reported such as described. Sore jaws were reported sometimes, but nothing like irritation or injury. You're possibly using a bit too much caution there - most girls seem to know about just keeping the teeth away. Covering teeth with lip and using injurious pressure seems unnecessary. I've only had a couple of nicks since the 1960s. BTW, I trust that he's reciprocating the pleasures, as any man should.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (12 June 2010):
Yes 15mins too long, either he is broken or you are doing technique wrong..
Read karma sutra for more advice on techniques
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (12 June 2010):
 Geez, this thread is going to end up with an XXX rating soon, methinks.
Poster: I'm with Mia's recommendations on this one. More technique less lip. B/f doesn't like it? Get him a plunger...or something. You don't want to develop TMJ over this.
Without going into lurid detail, I know for a fact that 15 mins is too much time for this, unless you want it that way and he can tolerate it that long. Personally, I've never had a guy who could hold out that long on me. Develop your techniques and perfect them and you'll have this guy in a puddle at your feet in less than 5 from zip to drip. You can work this ahem to where things happen when *you* want them to, not as his leisure. Takes some practice and a bit of trial and error, but it can be done and done well. Hell, you can make it an art form! Take your time, remember that you needn't exhaust yourself, sometimes less is more, think: *tantalize* not brutalize. Good luck and please stop suffering injury in this.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (12 June 2010):
Use ice-cream, pour on man, then take time to lick off, this will help you learn better technique.. treat as lollipop, untill the end when you want him to come because you want to stop.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (12 June 2010):
Yes, wrong technique.. try not to go for "make man come fast", but use "butterfly strokes" with one finger and tongue, little taps are also good, blowing on the long side, licking like lollipop.... do variation of movements, with tongue, fingers, hands and breasts, do diffferent pressures, taps, sucks, licks, kisses.. break up the rythmn and suprise him, then man will come quickly and it won't be so much work for you.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (12 June 2010):
Try a different method. Try doing other things than pressing your teeth up against your lip. Hun, I do the same, and I never bled or had to stop because of pain, so you must be doing something wrong. Do less lip action and more tongue action and hand action for example. Or take your time! 15 min is quit, this is nothing you need to hurry with. Prolong the blowjob and take your time and save your lips.
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (11 June 2010):
Umm, WTF?? I'm sorry. Kinda caught me off guard, there. A device to protect you from wearing through tissue in dealing out a blow job? Sweetie, I see no reason for this whatsoever. I think perhaps your b/f needs to be doing something beyond just being there.
I don't think there is such a thing as you describe. If this inflicts pain on ANYONE, much less bleeding, then you need to re evaluate your methods. This sounds horribly selfish on your b/f's part taking advantage of your desire to please him. I suppose you could try an NFL mouth guard, but then you'd look and feel pretty ridiculous, I think. All I can say is: he damn well better be appreciative of your efforts. Don't inflict injury on yourself for anyone for any reason. There is NO good reason for it.
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (11 June 2010):
Umm, WTF?? I'm sorry. Kinda caught me off guard, there. A device to protect you from wearing through tissue in dealing out a blow job? Sweetie, I see no reason for this whatsoever. I think perhaps your b/f needs to be doing something beyond just being there.
I don't think there is such a thing as you describe. If this inflicts pain on ANYONE, much less bleeding, then you need to re evaluate your methods. This sounds horribly selfish on your b/f's part taking advantage of your desire to please him. I suppose you could try an NFL mouth guard, but then you'd look and feel pretty ridiculous, I think. All I can say is: he damn well better be appreciative of your efforts. Don't inflict injury on yourself for anyone for any reason. There is NO good reason for it.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (11 June 2010):
 You could always get one of those 'gum shields that boxers use' Imagine that! hope this helps.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (11 June 2010):
 I don't know about a special mouth guard. Won't any do? They sell them at any store and sporting goods place. You boil them for 30 seconds, then put them in your mouth, where they conform to your teeth specificly.
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