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writes:So basically there's a guy who I've been seeing well we're friends with benefits and he said he doesn't like me more thn a mate, but he made an effort to take me out for my birthday and bought me a present which he would never do, so this is the part it gets confusing, when we were at the restaurant the waitress was like u two should have a picture of your girl (referring to me) and then said actually u two should put your picture in a keyring so he can keep it. I then made a joke saying he would probably draw on my picture and laughed. Throughout all this time he didn't once say to the waitress no we're not together or anything. Does that mean anything? Or m I overthinking? Is there a chance he likes me more but being subtle?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2015): Unpaid prostitute?!! First comment extremely rude. Yet again from this Janniepeg person. Way out of order. Again.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (20 November 2015):
 I think it would be a big faux pas to say, no she is just my FWB!
There was no reason to set the record straight to a waitress, a total stranger, as it's really none of her business.
He took you out because that is what friends do (at times) the fact that he ALSO happens to have sex with you occasionally doesn't mean he can't take you out. Now if you were just a F-buddy it would be different. Lines, intentions and emotions gets blurred with FWB. You might read more into his "friend" gestures because you are hoping he DOES care more.
If you want more, suggest it and if he doesn't, then you have to decide if you want to continue with the FWB or you want more, and act accordingly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2015): How long have you been seeing him for? What is your history beyond him taking you out for your birthday? Do you see each other frequently? Do you WANT to be with him?
Many questions but I have been in your position before lol
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (20 November 2015):
 Friends and benefits is not widely accepted in society even if it's being practiced commonly. People still look at you strange if you were to say to others, "this is my friends with benefit." It's still seen as something shameful, like you don't have what it takes to have a relationship, or you are using someone. Why would you settle for less than a mate? Friends and benefits is something people do so you don't feel like an unpaid prostitute, yet it's not something that can be seen in the light.
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