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writes:Is stuck-up and conceited the same thing??? People talk about me behind my back and think I'm stuck-up but I'm not. I just think very highly of myself but I dont think I'm too good to talk to anyone else. Can people tell that your conceited even if you dont say anything? Do you think I'm conceited? Just wondering. Reply to this Question
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (12 January 2009):
 Satindesire gave you a definition.
I'm not sure what you did to get accused of this, and it could be that you are being accused unjustly.
On the other hand it could be that you need to work on your humbleness.
Humility is a virtue that we all need to work on. Like our friend Daniel says, no one is perfect, not even Microsoft Word. People like you when you show an interest in others as well as yourself. I'm not accusing you of being a snob or conceited, though. I don't know you, so it wouldn't be fair.
However, were these people who are talking behind your back willing to say it to your face? It could be that they didn't say these things at all, if you didn't witness them, it's just hearsay. If they are talking behind your back but didn't have the guts to say it to your face, then their opinion isn't important. They need to grow some "cojones" and talk directly to someone when they have a problem with them. A good rule to live by is not to say it behind someone's back unless you're willing to say it to their face.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2009): i disagree with the first response in a way- you may not have caused the reaction in your peers. but do bare in min to never become a braggert! you do not sound as though you are one- which is good. but also, never allow others to try to chip away at who you are. in this world you will constantly come across people who are threatened by your strong self esteem. hold onto who you are. and work on your strong points. grow and keep close to only those who will benefit from you and help you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2009): if you were any of those things you wouldn't be concerned with how you effect others. i appluad your confidence. perhaps they may be feeling threatened by your confidence because they are lacking. and anyone who cannot confront a negative person to their face is weak minded. sounds like you should be asking where to find people more like yourself.
i am amazed at your confidence at your age. you need not concern yourself with these people and their ideas/ fantasies. you need to focus on developing your talents and exploring where your confidence would shine best.
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