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writes:I feel that its ok for my spouse to look at porn.... but..... My question is???? If your mate (male) is looking at porn and not satisfy his mate (female) then is it safe to say you both will stray??? i am starting to feel his addiction to this is affecting our relationship giving us both distance and not satisfying my sexual need. As the penis does not get fully hard by my presence. I think he is needing more porn to help this matter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2010): Dear lady,Every boy and Man before marriage and after marriage around the world watch porn. So my advice is that do not take it as seriously as you and for that matter many women are taking. So forget Porn factor. If he is getting erection problem. it might be some thing else within your home. work pressure, anxity, age or any thing can impact the dick. But it is sensitive and delicate issue to deal. SoMy feeling is that take 2 week off and go to some place, he will be relaxed and he will come to automatically. Porn can only help the erections. It never deteriorates it. BTW, one more factor i can tell you as a husband. I use porn when there is fight with my wife and i do not have courage to go to her and ask for sex and i have no way other than porn. So make sure that you are at least honor him for sex, if there are some normal couple fights that happen in every home. Hope my advice will be of some help.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (3 April 2010):
 Porn is fine as long as it is no threat to your sex life and he's still emotionally intimate and available to you.
However, that is not the case in your situation. His penis is unable to become hard and he is unable to satisfy you. I'm not saying the porn has to go, but you need to point out that a guy with a limp dick who can't get it up, shouldn't be looking at pornography because he hasn't got enough stamina.
Ask him to cut down on pornography so you can get some intimate sex time. If he feels that's unfair, then ask him not to masturbate, but he can continue to look at porn, when he becomes horny and the penis is hard, he must come to you for relief....
Stupid man, if he can't satisfy a woman, then he's taking this porn stuff too seriously.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (3 April 2010):
 Porn is controversial, but personally I believe it can reduce a guy's attraction to his partner, especially in a long term relationship. It can become a substitute for sex with her, and that leads to ruin.
I suggest you have a serious conversation about where your relationship is headed. If you two want to have a good relationship, you both have to put effort into it. If you can establish that he wants to do that, then raise the porn and the effect you think it might be having. Don't be angry or accusative, rather just ask him what effect he thinks it's having. He might be very defensive (many guys are about porn), but he'll probably know in his heart it's not healthy for you two.
Once you've established that, come up with some ways to bring some energy back into your relationship and sex life. The simplest way is to break your routine by doing some different things (i don't mean sexually). Go somewhere interesting you've never been, try out some activities you haven't tried before, shake things up. That's the simplest way to have fun together and to make things feel fresher.
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