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writes:I like this girl, she's real cute and all and i'm getting the vibe that she likes me too.She's not single but she was telling me that her boyfriend is an 'insensitive p***k'.How should I take this?Is she saying this because she likes me and would rather be with me? Or is she afraid to look, some how, weak? Or does she not want to seem like she's bragging because she's the only one not single out of our friends? My apologies if I don't make full sense. Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (29 June 2009):
 She likes you as a friend, and does NOT want you to replace her boyfriend.She is using you as a therapist to tell all her problems to.Next time, just tell her:"Stop! I am not your therapist, when you're with me, we have fun."Then lead her to doing something fun right on the spot.-Frank B Kermitauthor, From Friends To Lovershttp://www.franktalks.com
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2009): I have had a similar situation with a girl.
She probably isn't interested in a relationship with you. Sorry. In my case the girl had an utter b*****d of a BF who no one liked. Well I had been friends with him but when I got to know him better he was a prick and treated her badly, putting her down in public frequently.
I eventually told her how I felt about the way she was treated. They split up shortly after. Apparently HE finished with her.
If she needs a friend, support her. You'll not regret it and you will hopefully end up with a friend who will always be there for you.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (28 June 2009):
 I agree with Busdriver...whether she likes you or not is irrelevant. If she thinks her boyfriend is rubbish, why is she dating him? Criticising him in public says so much more about her as a person than it does about her wicked, insensitive boyfriend...if he was THAT bad wouldn't she leave him! She is looking for attention from you, a hot cup of tea (and sympathy) rather than hot passion I suspect.
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (28 June 2009):
You only dont make sense as youve been mislead, i understand why your questioning it all but as soon s you see that shes with someone its time to back down, yes the circumstances may not be that great and she might want to get out but its something she needs to do, you cant make her decide, if she didnt love him she wouldnt be with him any more. I know its hard especially when you get all the signs and she ticks all the boxes etc but if she was genuine then shed leave him then come and have the talk with you, until then dont get in any deeper your the only one going to get hurt, see it now to prevent it.
Id say to her look i respect that you can confide and be honest with me but your with him, so theres not a lot i can do. Just be honest and turn it slightly, leave it to her and see what happens, theres nothing you can do at the moment, she needs to do this if she really wants to.
Best of luck
I know its not the best advice but its a crapy situation where your the only one questioning it all, if shes the geuine one shell come to her senses just ask yourself if shes worth the wait. Your more of a guy for sticking around, but you need happiness to.
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reader, cherry cherry boom boom  +, writes (28 June 2009):
You never know unless you ask just walk up to her and tell that she was confusing you and she needs to give you an explination on why she told you that if she says I don't know or she does not tell you anything then she wants you. This ya girl, peace.
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reader, BusDriver +, writes (28 June 2009):
 Pass on by...
She is playing a game -
She is exhibiting more than poor manners when she speaks badly of her boyfriend to you. She is telling you that she suffers from low self esteem - if he is truly such a bad guy, why is she with him? She is showing a lack of loyalty - if he isn't really a jerk. If she wants to have changes in her relationship, why tell you what a jerk her bf is? You can't change that!
Chances are, if she broke it off with her bf and started going out with you... she would do the same TO YOU - cause if she cheats with you, she will cheat on you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2009): Ah - that's an easy one - simply ask her if she would prefer to go out with someone who IS sensitive and caring. If she says "Yes" you have your answer: simply open your arms as if presenting yourself and say "So when can I see you then?"!!!
Mind you, she may say "No" to your first question, in which case you still retain dignity and face.
Good luck.
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