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male
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30-35,
*rochur
writes:Ok so I've known this girl for about two years but in the last maybe six months, bit longer probably, we've been getting really close, but we've got our debs coming up in September (more or less like the prom in America) and all my mates think she's just using me for a debs ticket. I'm not sure though I don't particularly want to be her boyfriend because she's a bit of a slut but I do care for her and all. I really can't tell whether she is just using me though. See she texts me every day or two or i text her although she usually texts me first for a chat or to tell me something and it's great and when we're out together at a club or party or something it's fine until she gets locked and then she just kind of ignores me. Like the other night I was up in my mates house at a party and she was in the local club. She was textin me the whole night trying to get me to come down. The party finished early enough and a few of the lads were going down I decided to head with them and see her and her mates who I get on with very well too. But when I got there she didn't say a word to me. I'm a bit pissed off with her over that which is why I'm kind of thinking along the lines of my mates in the last couple of days, but I honestly can't tell if shes using me or not nine months seems a long game to be playing just for a debs ticket, but on the other I wouldn't put it past her. I love her to bits she's a great laugh but I will say this about her shes very cunning at times. I'd just like a bit of advice on what people think cos I am considering bringing her to the debs but I don't really want tonic that's been her plan all along
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reader, Oregongrl1  +, writes (6 July 2010):
First you say you don't want to be her boyfriend but then you say you love her? she is tease w/ no consideration for others it's all about her and she wants to be center of attention! what a brainless broad and feeling less. well common aren't there some other neat girls that you know? and just tell her buzz off i would not care if it hurt her feelings, she needs someone too! you are the one whos got to make the move we can't do it for you. (dump Her)
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reader, romany  +, writes (6 July 2010):
 Whats does really close mean to you?Do you mean as in friendship, coz i dont think she is seeing you as a close friend, she is treating you like an acqualintance, calling you to a party and then not talking to you-thats naughty, but you can do that to someone who isn't a close friend.If your saying close as in a sexual way, then she is bang out of order with what she is doing.Either way, I'd not take her to the Deb ball, she is reknown for ignoring you when she gets 'locked' and sometimes our real close friends see things alot more clearly, specially when they dont have a soft spot for someone.Take someone who is going to want to enjoy the Debs with you, and make it someone who is going to be thughtful and make it a special night for you too.She sounds incredibly self centred, and I think she is manipulating you.
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