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*ee jong
writes:Here we go, it started early 2009 wen i got my new job, i was a virgin and i met my work mate late that yr (8yrs old than me) let me call her freedom. She stays near my township so we use 2 walk together after work. So i became more attracted 2 her and i told her that i was in love wit her and she return that as well but she told me she had a man(4 yrs in luv with him) that she wasnt satisfied in bed wit him. I ignore that. 2010 freedom wanted a commitment i told her i wont b sure about this love, we have together cos she was still in luv with another guy. We came 2 an agreement that she will end this wit him and we continue with this and she always wanted a baby she fall pregnant after all that break up wit him. So whenever the guy called she told me. Until now she about 2 deliver my child yesterday we were together and that guy called, she didn't pick it up, we were watching a movie so i checked her cellphone after she went 2 the toilet and find out the guy sent her a sms and she saved it 2 favourites and they had 18 minutes call the day before yesterday which she didn't tell me. I ask her why she didn't answer the phone she said the guy was buzzing her i said call him maybe is something serious she said he will call. The guy is 31 and shes 29. Is she using me? I love her very much and she use 2 return that as well. Their age perfect maybe i was a baby maker? What should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2011): Being used as a baby maker is bad. But right now you need to worry even more about being used as a baby supporter for someone else's child. Get a paternity test for that child before you do anything else.
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reader, Lee jong +, writes (7 May 2011):
Lee jong is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks to the 1st answer i m looking forward to here lot of this helpful advice thanx a lot
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (7 May 2011):
 The age thing is not too much of a concern. There are some women who are torn between two types of men. The comforter provider type and the wild, animal type. A woman prefers the animal type to make babies and the provider type to take care of her financially. She is listening to her body, not her head here. I am not too sure what's going on. She seems like a confused person.
How can you be sure the baby is yours? Maybe she is using you as a baby's daddy. I just wonder how you can do all that movie, texting and calling when a newborn cries every hour or so. What you should do is do a paternity test to confirm you are a father, and then decide if you want this new family. You should clear all that blur and fog. If the baby's yours, it's too late to wonder whether she's using you or not. It takes two to make a baby. I find her to be a questionable character, take heed but nonetheless try to have a relationship with her. It's a relationship with the three of you, not just two now. Your relationship with her has an awkward beginning but don't pin her down as one type of person forever. People grow and evolve. Try to bring out the best in her, then see if a real relationship is possible.
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