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writes:help i have been seing a married man for nearly 7 years we get on great have had loads of holidays together and functions etc all was ok until his wife done her detective work and found about about us. He left her and moved in with me for the last 2 months and monday night he dropped the bombshell i am going back and sleeping in the box room which she has also confirmed he is getting a flat so his daughters can see him coz they want nothing to do with me. i packed all his things and said when you are free and divorced give me a call. he keeps calling me she keeps texting me he says nothing is going on i feel so confused do i believe him ? she tells me the flat was so they could have space and rekindle their marriage she has told me all sorts of really personal things about him and said they were still sleeping together he totally denies this ! he says is just so he can get money out of the house coz they are remortgaging it for the flat. his plans are to live there for 6 months then rent it out and come back to me when he is divorced is he lying my heart tells me to get rid of him i am devasted what do i do? he has not been on a family holiday since being with me he has slept round my house nearly every night even before he moved in. who do i believe is she just trying to get me to dump him ? any ideas please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): why do you see his wife as your enemy. you both have been had by the cad so how come she is the enemy and not him? you have stolen from this woman for 7 years, enjoyed the luxuries as a mistress. for 7 years you ran arund with him, his wife now found out and he lastes, what , a mere 2 months with you before running back to his wife. of course he is still having sex with his wife, why wouldn't they. they are married after all. open your eyes. the mistress seldom makes it as a wife or long term partner. you know this, why do you expect any better? you know the saying, if you are now his better hapf, well, you have just created another vacancy in your role.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you i know deep down what a have to do
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009): Yes, right now she probley hates you quite a bit so she'll probley say anything to make her husband feel bad. Marriage is not the greatest thing, it's a great way of messing up lives and losing alot of money and friends. If you love him then be with him, if you don't then move on. Marriage is like jumping into pool of honey, it's hard to get off and takes awhile, it's sticky.
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (22 August 2009):
 If he was interested in a real relationship with you instead of simply having you on the side he would have left his wife years ago, instead he waited seven years and then left you after only two months.
That's all the answer you need.
He is a liar. He's been lying this whole time. I'm sure he is still sleeping with his wife and in fact I would bet money on it. Listen to your heart and do what you know is right.
Good luck.
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