Is she taking me for a fool and for someone to laugh at?

A female age 30-35, *torm08 writes:

Hello, sorry this might be long but i need help!! i am in a relationship with my lesbian girlfriend and we are very happy together. My best friend is also a lesbian and is in a relationship with lets call her lisa, well when i first met lisa about 2 years ago we got along really well, and had a laugh, (my mate and her live far away so i didnt see them often.)a few days after that i got a text message, just asking if i was ok etc.. i found out that it was lisa, and asked how she got my number, she told me she took it from my mates phone. Anyway a few weeks after that they came over again and she started being slightly flirty with me with the words she was using, i started to feel uncomfortable and tried my hardest not to respond in a way where my mate would feel threatened, but to much dismay lisa text me that night saying my mate accused her of fancying me!!! So i asked er outright and she said she thought i was fit, i told her straight away that i wouldn't becuase of my mate. So she carried on texting as normal.. i saw them both as normal... and one night it came about, myself, my mate and lisa just started kissing one another. Drinking didnt help, but we put a stop to it before it got to far. after they left lisa text me saying my mate was having ago and quizzing her about kissing me, saying that lisa should of never rubbed her hand up and down my back and asking her if she enjoyed kissing me, so i text back saying what did you say? she said.. i told her i didnt enjoy it and it was just fun... but if i am honest to you, i did enjoy it and wish it went further!! well after all the accusations flying round i had enough and confronted my mate, and told her i wouldn't ever go behind her back cus she is my mate!! everything died down for months then all of a sudden they turned up at my door... again lisa was being flirty but i ignored it best i could, she never text me after that. But on new years she sent me a text saying happy new year etc.. so i asked how she was considering i hadn't spoken to her in ages... and the convo went on to me apoligising for not staying in touch with her, she replyed saying im sorry to i couldnt bare it... so i asked why and she said her feelings got to strong for me. then the following morning i sent a text saying well if i am honest i couldnt of ever done that to my mate, but at one point i did want you.. she replyed to me saying it werent ever to happen so i sent one back saying i know that!! Well i felt a little ridiculed as i never told lisa that before, and she blew me out like i was a joke or something. My girlfriend knows about all thats happened as i told her, i even told her during the rough patch we was having i started to get feelings towards lisa...but never took it anywhere becuase of my mate and becuase i wanted me and my partner to work through it.

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