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*im830
writes:Hi i need some advice, i have been seperated from my wife for over 2 years now and never wanted a girlfriend...... until now! i got talking to someone over e mail through work and we are both the same age similar interests and both in the same situation. The trouble is within a couple of days i felt a connection and we exchanged photos we both fancied each other, the problem is she has now said that she finds it hard to move on because of what happened to her and wanted to stay just friends, my trouble is i haven't thought about anything else but her and haven't heard anything from her since. Question is Does she fancy me or is she giving me the brush off, or is she scared of a new relationship?
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reader, jim830 +, writes (17 August 2010):
jim830 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your replies but can you tell me should i tell her how i feel?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): She's scared of a new relationship. That's what she said. Seems like she tried to move forward by agreeing to share a photo of herself, but now the reality of the whole idea is scaring her and she's pulling back to a safe place. Friendship.
Personally I'm very afraid of getting involved with another man after what I've been through in my failed marriage. Right now, I can't even imagine opening up my feelings to someone. I'm sure you can relate to that too since it has been some time since you've been ready to date.
You can always remain friends with her but be open to meeting others.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (17 August 2010):
 If you're both in the same situation, that implies neither of you are yet divorced and therefore free to pursue whom you want. She is clearly having second thoughts about getting involved with someone (she works with no less) while still married. Also you may be ready for a new relationship, but she may not be in the exact same place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): tell her you just want to be friends to and wait for the right time to ask what the reason is for not wanting to date. if she continues distancing even after you agree to be friends then shes trying to brushing you off. you might have really want to move on from your ex and you went too fast and it scared her. just acouple posibilites of what hapened and what you can do. unfortunantly theres no 100% correct answer you can get from anyone sorry, just not possiable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2010): im afraid it sounds like the brush off hun. If ur still not sure then ask her again once more but if the answer is still no then the best thing to do is to forget about it. I no its easier said than done but i promise iv been there. Perhaps if u want to meet new people then find a hobby that wud ensure u hav contact with others eg coaching, a sport or art class?
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