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writes:My dreams are finally coming true, I finally got the girl I like to talk to me! We are so close, to each other, but she said this "Our friendship is more valuable then a relationship, I like u but id rather be ur friend" is she rejecting me? What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (29 May 2008):
 It does sound like she is rejecting a relationship. (if I was into a guy, I wouldn't risk saying that!) So, you want more and she wants friends. In my experience, I've wasted time waiting and hoping for someone to change their mind. (they never did!) I'm not saying friends is a bad thing, but it's not what you want so I'm afraid you must slow down on the contact and no longer treat her as a potential lover. If it's any consolation, I've been in this situation a number of times too! H xx
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reader, a-g55 +, writes (29 May 2008):
 Hi. this could all date back to when you first met her and the first impressions you subliminaly gave off. yes you get talking and you get led on to believe your liked and then get shot down at the end because you slipped into the very annoying friendzone when all along the first impression you gave was that of a sincere friend figure and that is something easy to help once you know how to help it now just by you telling me this i can assume that you are a sensitive thoughful guy who asks questions and tries to find out more about her and you can have very good convorsations and make big rapport. you maybe dont see yourself as sexy or outstandingly good looking. you might actualy be handsome but because you half self doubts its affects the way you come across which means all you have to do now is understand that your brain is like a computer. you have a concious and a subconcious mind and in your sub concious you store every single sight smell feeling emotion behavior belief and thought and memory. infact every single object that the light reflects off in your eye straight from the brands on peoples shoes walking on the opposite side of the road to you. you record things in your perifial vision and every word you have ever read is stored in your subconcious and your concious is basicly a tool that uses logic and reasoning to pick out these memories and experiences. now i like to call these files just like in a computer and i like to call your behaviour your operating system like windows and your emotions and beliefs are your software and hardware. now just like a computer you can delete, change, manipulate and replace software that works best for the outcome in life you desire for example if you say to yourself that you dont want girls to see you as a friend then thats a negative suggestion you need to turn that into "i want girls to see me as a lover" and ask yourself what would that bring you if they did and how would it make you feel and how would that affect other areas in your life. now what you might want to do is read about hypnosis NLP, seduction, kino escilation, pick up, rapport building and get knowledge on how you actualy create your own desired out comes now there are many books which can give you this . one is transformation by richard bandler who is the founder of hypnotherapy . Once you know all this you dont leave it down to fate to decide weather a girl will like you. from now on if you like a girl you will use your knowledge and skills to make sure that if you like her then she will like you back. now it does take practice but what you also need to grasp is how to build long lasting relationships and i have an article about this on this site. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): i belive that she is not rejecting you. you said that the two of you have become very close maby she would like to keep you and her as very good friends because she may worrie that it wont work out and she would lose a relasonship and a very good friend.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (28 May 2008):
 maybe she rather have you a friend than none at all encase it didnt work out. i know how that feels. she is rejecting you but only to protect the special friendship you have and she doesnt want to loose that or you if a relationship went wrong, or maybe she doesnt want a relationship at all with anyone. the only one with the answers is her, so we can only speculate our thoughts on the matter..thats my opinion aphexy
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