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male
age
30-35,
*Drake
writes:My name is Danny and im 16 years old. I'm very much ready for sex, beleive it or not, and I want to have sex with my girlfriend. WE hang out a lot and she talks about doing all of these freaky things but i don't know if she is really serious or not. I want for us to have sex but im not sure if she is ready or not. Should I tell her that I want it or should I just give her a hint. Im not trying to rush things though. We both are virgins but she is more of the "good girl" type. I fool around with her when she tells me freaky things but i don't want to actually say something and she knows I mean it and then thinks different of me. Help me out please. Thanks
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reader, Elydiese  +, writes (15 June 2010):
ask her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2010): how long have uguys been dating?talk too her see wats up.. do not pressure her at all..wait for her.. if u really love her be patient,,
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reader, YouWish +, writes (2 June 2010):
 You could have the conversation in a non-threatening, non pressure way and leave the ball in her court. Just tell her how you feel about her as a person. She's probably thinking about the same thing you are and mulling over whether or not she's really ready.
Hinting isn't good enough. If you feel your relationship is at a point where you both love each other, bring up how you feel to her.
Above all, you have to respect her decision. She may not say yes right away. However, your loving reaction at hearing "no" may go farther than any other commitment you could make to her and any other thing you could say.
If she says "yes" either now or in the near future, make sure that you are SAFE. Don't rely on her, YOU make sure you have condoms that aren't old and that you know full well how to use them.
Lastly, you are 16-17. Are you ready to accept the risks of sex? Remember, one thing that may make her hesitate is the risk of STD and pregnancy. I know that you are both virgins, but sex is a very risky venture, and you haven't learned the control of the experienced. It's not a decision either of you should make lightly.
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