A
male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:About 2 weeks ago my wife out of no where says she wants a divorce. We have been together eight years and although tings have been very rough at times we have always made it through. We are still good friends and still live together at the moment until our lease is up.The part that I just don't understand is that she tells people she is confused yet tells me she is sure in her decision and has no doubts. Then she turns around and says that she known down the road she will look back and realize she made a mistake.She also states she still loves and cares about me, which I do not doubt. The other strange thing is that she still try to be intimate with me but then all of a sudden stop and says that she can't do it because she doesn't want any type of intimate relationship.She also recently started dating a guy, which bothers me yes but I am a extremely understanding person. So I also find it strange that she would seek someone so soon after everything.I honestly cannot tell what she wants, if she really wants to be with me or not or if she really even wants the divorce. I offered to have her stay at her friends house until the lease was over so she could have her own space away from me and she agreed but now says it's to complicated and she just rather stay here with me until the lease is over..What gives? I know women can be confusing as hell but I just find myself saying "what the hell?" What does she want or doe she even know what she wants at this point?
View related questions:
divorce Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (2 March 2009):
 She sounds very confused. I would be confused in your situation too, if I were trying to understand a partner who was all over the map.
The fact she's dating someone else already? And she only told you two weeks ago that things were so bad she wanted a divorce? Um, that's a stretch for me. She's obviously been seeing him since before she made her announcement.
Look, were you totally blindsided, or have you had some idea that things were going wrong, and just chose to ignore those signs? It's hard to believe a happy woman would suddenly announce she wanted a divorce and started dating while still living in the same house as her understanding husband. Doesn't add up to me. Either she's been lying to you or you haven't been paying attention.
Professional marriage counseling. Go find it; make an appointment that she can make too. Tell her about it, and go even if she doesn't come with you. Maybe you'll get a handle on what's gone so wrong. Maybe you'll even get some ideas as to how to fix them. What do you have to lose?
Good luck, I hope things work out for you.
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): Shes dating another guy and you two are still married?
You dont deserve that, regardless of how "understanding" you are. She sounds like she wants out of the marriage but doesnt want to hurt you. I am sorry this woman is mistreating you, and wasting your time. The sooner you get out, the sooner the pain will stop.
You didnt see this coming at all?
...............................
|
