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writes:Is she lying to me? I sugested to my girlfriend to experience anal sex and she accepted. That was about 48 times ago (an average of one per month) and she still insists it is painful to her. I don't understand why since I feel no resistance during penetration. My penis is not extremely big or thick (almost nothing above normal) and it slides so easy that I see is not lack of lubrication. She even moans like she is having a lot of pleasure and in two of all this times she eyaculated a clear and abundante fluid out of her vagina during anal sex while we were in a sofa and she had her legs on my arms while I was on my knees on the flor. Most of the time we do it doggy style on a chair and she grabs my hand to stimulate her clit and that is how she gets her orgasm. I may be giving too much detail but I want to put you ladies in the situation so you can tell me if it is just that she plays the roll of victim so I don't think she is a hore or something like that. She says she like it some times but that she is afraid of having problems later in her life and that is why we have it only once per month in a regular basis. Ocationally I have take the iniciative before it is a month and she lets me but after we finsh she says she doen't want to do it so frecuently and that she accept only because I get her too aroused to resist. So does she likes it or not? Does it really hurts her or not? Maybe you guys can have some input too since you may have the same situation with your wifes or girfriends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question I want to thank you all for your input into my original question. I want to make clear once more that I'm not forcing her, entering rudely or doing it unlovingly. Since the begining she was totally in control and I never continued if she said she had pain. Of those 48 times in 4 years, she has had aknowledge to get pleasure out of and I my purpuse since the start was fot both, NOT ONLY ME to have pleasure. If she would say I DON"T LIKE IT I DONT WANT TO DO IT ANY MORE then I would understand your comments but you are not reading that she gets pleasure and just shows concern or fear of having problems in the future. I know there are rude people who doesn't know how to express their opinion without anger or with consideration. We are all human and we all are diferent in the way we see life and the things we do. She accepted to have anal sex and you are seen this issue as if I don't care about her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): my gf was the exact same, she said it hurt, and we had done it a few times. i take her word for it. i dont know bout you but i love my girl and we have no secrets, if ya think shed play a game- then theres nothing for you there.
or her. why wouldn't you just take her word for it? my girlfiend gets wet too from it, but thats natural because in my job, i work in victims crime unit- even rape victims can experience physical arousla through pain- its the bodies reaction- which does not mean she enjoyed it, nor does it mena she wanted it.
anal sex can be painful to recover from, when and if my gf and i engage again, we set a mood, and i please her first, if she asks me to stop- i pull out slowly and immediately.
i take care of her needs, as a relationship demands respect. why would she think shes a whore? are you hung up on that idea?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008): Bravo Fade Bravo!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnnonimous lady: Yous because I don't agree with your "facts" doesn't mean I'm stuburn or have a small penis. Obviously you have your reasons to be against anal sex and I respect your opinion. We are not able to say how many women of the population are currently practicing this kind of sex but it is well known that the practice is getting more and more popular. Certainly since the practice is getting a common thing the percentage of bad experiences is going to increase as well but you are not looking at the other side, the side of those women who like the practice and are not planning to stop just because some women have had bad results. I know a lot of women or even men considere anal sex an aberration, an inmoral thing or just plain wrong or like you unhealthy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): Im the anonymous poster and I have to say that you have researched poorly and probably stopped looking as soon as you found evidence to back your opinion. These women im talking about are average housewives who like yours do it to please their man not because they enjoy it.Im sorry but why the obsession with anal. Do you have a small penis and get no friction the normal way.Anyway whatever. If your going to get your info off PRO ANAL websites what hope does anyone here have of talking sense into you.Maybe you can tuck it all back in for her when she coughs one day and it all falls out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI understand the anger you (the "nurse") feel since you are in the field of medical problems. The reality is that those cases represent a very small percentage of the people currently practicing anal sex. Remeber that not all man are egual and that there are those inconsiderate who use no lubricant, who do not go slow and who force their way in. I have been reading on answerbag.com on anal sex and there is a big percentage of women who enjoy it and who have being doing it for years. Some claim to be doing it for over 15 or 16 years with no side efects. You have seen the victims of abuse and we are not talking of abuse but of moderate use. 48 times sound like a big number if you put them all in one day but I mention once per month in average. Some of the readers who have done it for over 10 years proclaim to do it several times in a weekend so aren't you feeling upset and being rude unfairly?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008): Guys and anal sex.....I dump men like you. I tell any guy who asks for it to let me give it to them up the bum with my vibrator. Normally they refuse and leave it alone (hey they know the offer is there) one guy said yes and ended up almost in tears he was in agony but still wanted to do it to me even tough he knew it hurts like hell so I kicked him out of my house. Im a nurse and I have seen SO MANY anal prolapses that it isn't funny.Lots of them women whó have spent years taking it up the or their bum for their selfish prick husbands pleasure.When you have an ANAL PROLAPSE not only can you not hold your bowel movements but the whole RECTUM COMES OUT. Basically you turn inside out. Normally women try and tuck it back up the first few times but that only lasts for so long then you have to have painful surgery to stitch the rectum back into place.I think you should leave your POOR WIFES anus alone and let her give it to YOU up the bum 48 times so your even and see how you like it mate. Im glad im not married to you thats for sure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008): If you have anal sex too often she risk her anal becoming very streched and loose to a point where she won't be able to hold her bowel movements. Why don't you let her use something up your arse and see how confortable you feel? That may be the answer to your problem.
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