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writes:I am in process of getting a divorce. I am in love with a married woman who says she has moved out of their house into her mom's. I have relocated 3 hrs. away. She said she is going to file her paperwork. But then suddenly, she is going away to Japan for 2 weeks to see her sister. She claims she will handle her paperwork when she returns. She gave me a list of why she needed to go now, family, won't have the time when she moves to be with me, new job, etc...true enough. But in the meantime I am sitting here with my life on hold waiting for her. I think that she is being selfish and it has raised questions in my mind. Am I being unreasonable? Am I looking at this the wrong way???I look forward to you or your response. Confused and Concerned
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reader, Variety  +, writes (15 March 2008):
 In my opinion it is only two weeks and then you will know what is going on. If you love her you will let her have this time and then get sorted when she comes home. But if she comes home and puts it off again I would be more worried. Then you can start seeing more clearly what is going on.
Hope this helps. Message me if you want to talk. x
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (15 March 2008):
 You know, usually it's the women doing this, waiting on someone to divorce, BUT anyways.....Two weeks is not a long time to wait. At least she has given you a definite time. Just wait out the two weeks, and if she makes more excuses, she is just leading you on.
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (15 March 2008):
 I dont see two weeks as being an awful long time to be honest and I think that if her reasoning is sound which you say it is here then you have to accept what she is saying at face value unless you have any other reasons to doubt her stories.
Because I dont see 2 weeks as being an awful long time in the scheme of things I am not so sure she is being selfish. I think it maybe that you are feeling a touch of impaitence at finally seeing the end of what has presumably been a long road and then finding out that this road has been extended a little which is perfectly understandable. I think, unless she is giving you any other reason to doubt her, you will have to accept this one with good grace and wait out the two weeks before you can start your new life and be excited about being able to do that when she gets back. Good luck :)
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