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writes:Hello everyone, So I recently graduated and I decided to facebook friend a girl I liked from my drawing class during my last semester at college. We spoke a few times in class. She is now currently a sophomore. So what follows is a facebook message exchange between the two of us. She usually responds within the same day, and even hours from when I sent it. Me:How has your summer been? I’ve been doing production sound and editing a TV show. If you’re up for it, we should catch up sometime. My number is ________Her:my summer has been great, although I think i am finally ready for it to end! Working on a tv show sounds like fun. We should chill. Are you doing any more action figure still lives? Me:I’m glad to hear that! I’ve been drawing, but no still lives. What about you? I actually just got this great job playing video games and I start working this Monday. So how does coffee sometime on Saturday sound? Her:i should have drawn more this summer, I spent like two months on one painting. That was the only thing I made this summer. Are you getting paid to play video games? if so im jealous. The first week of school is going to be very hectic for me, I have to do a ton of shopping for my new apartment and i have some things to work through with my roomate. Thank you for getting this far. So my question is, what do you think is my status with her? Does she eventually want to see me or not really? My plan is to message her back on Tuesday talking about my job and ask her something about her day. In other words, I would not ask her out again until a week passes by (and she hopefully responds). Good plan? Bad plan? Thank you for any help, I really appreciate it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice!
Just in case you are curious, I actually hit her up again several months later on facebook and she accepted to go on one coffee meeting on Sunday morning. We hung out, but she made it very clear that she isn't into "dating" anybody right now.
I tried throughout the following months to see her again, but she always claimed she was either busy or studying.
I've pretty much given up on her.
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reader, alexis23 +, writes (16 August 2010):
 To me it sounds like she's avoiding your company. Not to put you down in any way, but she didn't say anything about your phone number, or calling you, and you offered a hangout for coffee, and she didn't mention it either. She just changes the subject to something else. Seems like a waste of your time. Yeah, you might like her, but I don't think she feels the same. She's changing subjects here. I could be wrong, but it seems weird to me.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (16 August 2010):
 It's hard to tell from a few messages, but she might not be interested in meeting and doesn't know how else to make it clear other than ignoring the question. You've also given her your number, has she called you or sent a text message since then?
Also, I feel Facebook is too impersonal to use to set up dates or make plans. It should be discussed on the phone, or through text messages at the very least. If she hasn't contacted you outside of the internet, it would be best to assume she's just not interested.
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