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writes:I met this girl a few months back who has low self esteem but underneath she seemed a nice girl, she is also a virgin. She had a boyfriend at the time but he dumped her and then soon after she asked me out. We were together for a few weeks but then she said she couldn't handle a relationship so she ended it wanting to be single a bit, however couple days later she got back with her ex, i was gutted as we were close and she told me lots of stuff she never told anyone else. However she admitted few weeks later she still loved me and felt she should not gone back to her ex, but then few days later she changed her mind and said she shouldn't have said that. Then a day after that her boyfriend dumps her again. And we start spending ages on the phone and she hints that she still likes me. However she had a date with another guy last night and then said no she don't fancy me.I don't get her at all, she says shes most comfortable around me and im the one person whon dont pressure her, we've argued couple times since we broke up, when I tried to get away she threatens to harm herself and says nobody ever wants her and everyone just abandones her. Trouble is I still want her although I haven't told her this even though she keeps pushing me to admit how I feel not believing the answers I give her. I feel bad because we are close but I am at my wits end, should I walk away? even if its just for a bit? Is she having me on? or is she generally confused?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNow she said she wants her ex back after he cried to her down the phone, I simply said good luck to her as a friend and she thought I was being sarcastic and said I shouldn't be so jealous as it hurts her, I said I wasn't and she didn't believe me. It's like what is going on with her, when she's not being like this she's always complinementing me. Also last night I made a joke that I was going to work tomorrow and it might be a bit of time before I have net access, she asked if i was looking forward to it, I said yes I can get away from home, and she said anyone you will miss, are you glad to be getting away from me? I said said yes then I said only kidding. But she then took it as being serious and moaned that I don't text her much anymore, like she felt I was trying to get rid of her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2009): I am in a similar position, I would don't completely block her out, carry on talking to her every so often but don't make yourself easy to her.
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reader, The old Man?  +, writes (8 February 2009):
 She sounds a little of both confused, and keeping you as a safety net.
I'd walk away, but don't close the door. She knows she can have you whenever she wants. Don't be so available. You just might find her closer than before.
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